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Channel: The Budget Mom
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- Welcome to The Budget
Mom YouTube channel.
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I'm Kumiko love from TheBudgetMom.com,
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and today we're gonna be talking
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all about work/life balance.
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What does this look like in my life
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as a full time entrepreneur
and working from home
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as well as what did it
look like in my life
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when I was working two jobs,
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essentially working on
The Budget Mom business,
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and, you know, going down
to an eight-to-five job
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all at the same time of being a single mom
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and raising my son.
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There's a lot that goes
on in this conversation,
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but I think the most important word
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that we're gonna be talking
about today is balance.
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So work/life balance.
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It's something that we all struggle with.
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I know in my own life
I've struggled with it.
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I think for me,
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my main struggle was
finding what that balance
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looked like for me personally,
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and the boundaries I had
to establish in my life
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to be comfortable and okay with that.
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So there are a couple of different things
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that I've learned along my journey.
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The number one thing is
setting healthy boundaries,
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and boundaries that you
set in your personal life
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is gonna look different for everybody.
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For me, boundaries had to do with
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how I spent my time and energy.
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So for me, spending
quality time with my son
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while being a work,
you know, a working mom
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was really, really important.
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So establishing those boundaries
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and figuring out my hard nos.
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So for example, one of my
boundaries in my life is Sunday.
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Sunday is a family day.
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I make sure that I'm
100% completely present
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physically and mentally for
my family and for my son.
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Sunday is family only.
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That is my hard boundary.
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It's also my hard no.
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I think what also, when you're
juggling work/life balance,
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you know, you want to obviously get better
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in your professional career and life,
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and you also want to be
better as being a mom,
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and a spouse, and a daughter, or a friend.
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I had to develop hard nos.
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And what that looked like
for me is saying to myself,
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I will not miss Christmas
with my family and my son.
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That was one of my hard nos.
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So stepping back and thinking about
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what the things that are really important,
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the things that matter to you,
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and then even working down a list,
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writing down a list of those
boundaries and those hard nos.
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Another thing that I learned
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when trying to juggle work life balance
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was realizing that it's really hard
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to be great at something if
you're trying to do everything,
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You can't be a good mom, a
good coworker, a good employee,
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the best friend, the best
daughter, the best sister,
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the best everything all at the same time.
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So you really have to
pick and choose the things
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that you spend your energy and time on.
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And for me that's
different every single day.
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Maybe one day, I'm focusing my time
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on energy on my business.
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Maybe one day, it's
focusing my time and energy
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on the quality time that
I'm spending with my son.
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But you have to I think have that mindset
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and understanding that you can't be great
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at everything all at the same time.
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And you really have to pay attention
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to how you are intentional
with your time and energy
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and make sure that you are
really utilizing those resources
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for the things that matter most to you.
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Another thing that really helped me
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as far as work/life
balance was making sure
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that I had a very good organized schedule
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and goal setup in my life.
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Now, I'm a sporadic person.
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I'm the type of person where
I literally think about
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10 million different things all at once,
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and I try doing all of them.
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I'm also the type of person
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where when I have a passion for something,
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it drives me and I don't stop.
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So it was really hard
for me to find that line
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between pursuing something
that I'm so passionate about
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versus what I really needed to be doing.
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And that all comes down
to your priorities,
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but also having an organized
schedule in my life
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really helped with finding the time
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to spend on the things that mattered.
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So of course, when I was
working my eight-to-five job,
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that was making sure
that my heart and mind
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were at that job.
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I was giving 100% of myself to my employer
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because that's what they paid me to do.
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When I was here at home, I
had to set that boundary of:
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I leave work at work.
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Five o'clock is that cutoff.
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When I go home, my mind and my attention,
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my passion is at home.
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It's on family, it's on my son.
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So having also that
organized schedule, I mean,
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it's for meal plans,
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and for planning out different activities,
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and planning ahead for different things
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happening in my life
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also helped reduce a lot of that stress.
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And I'm gonna be showing you
my complete organized system
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for the things that I have
as far as my schedule,
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my meal plan and all the
other types of things
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that go into that.
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So the last thing I
quickly wanna talk about
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when it comes to work/life balance
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before I show you the things and resources
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I have implemented in my life
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to kind of help with that balance
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is learning to take care of yourself.
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So it's hard for me to be
the best mom that I can be,
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or the best partner that I can be,
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or the best daughter that I can be
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without first working on myself.
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So I've kinda learned to
embrace self care in my life,
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and what that looks like
for me is making sure
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that I have a dedicated
time in my planner,
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in my schedule to do
the things that I enjoy,
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not as a mom, not as an employee,
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not as a partner, not as a
friend, but as an individual.
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Embracing those small things
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and really taking the time and
making the conscious effort
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to spend time on myself is not selfish.
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It's actually very giving.
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You need to have that time
in your life for yourself
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in order to do the
things that you do best.
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And so I really had to learn
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how to embrace that in my life.
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And for me, like I said,
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that just means putting it in my planner,
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making a specific dedicated
plan for that time,
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whether it's going out to
lunch with a girlfriend,
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maybe it's taking 15 minutes
in the morning to read a book,
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finding an hour to work out,
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but spending in making that
conscious effort for myself
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is really, really, really important.
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So let me show you some of the
different resources and tools
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I've implemented in my life to
help with work/life balance.
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So to help me with work/life balance,
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I had to figure out what
type of person that I am.
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And I quickly realized that
I'm a list person. Okay?
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I, the way that I organize my life
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is via worksheets and different lists.
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I go down and I just check 'em off.
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So incorporating an
organized system to help
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will combat some of that stress.
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Not only that I feel like,
look, mom guilt is a thing.
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We feel like sometimes
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we're sacrificing time with
our children maybe to do work
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or to do other things that
we feel we need to get done.
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And one of the things that
I've embraced in my life
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is really showing myself grace,
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knowing that I'm making
these sacrifices now
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to provide something better in the future.
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And that's something that I
really had to be okay with.
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Now everyone's passions,
everyone's pursuits are different.
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For me, my passion is
a little bit different
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as it's not your normal eight-to-five job.
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So helping people with their
finances via The Budget Mom
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is something that I have
incorporated into my everyday life.
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That's essentially what The Budget Mom is.
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And so I have to work around
that a little bit more
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than some other moms out there,
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but it's really about
just giving yourself grace
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and realize, and looking at
what you're working towards,
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whether it be professionally, as a mom,
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as a partner, whatever.
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So I wanna show you what
I have going on now.
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We're currently in my office.
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This is my command center.
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I use this space for a
couple of different things.
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My cleaning schedule,
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and I have my full cleaning
schedule here on YouTube.
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This is where I write
down all of my thoughts.
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This is basically my brain dump location.
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My weekly schedule with my son,
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especially because
we've been safe at home,
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and we were doing a lot
of his schooling from home
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and then my goals.
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So each thing on this
board is a little bit
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of what we were talking
about earlier in the video.
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Having a dedicated space
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and organization to each
element of your life
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is going to help combat
some of that overwhelm,
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anxiety and stress.
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It also keeps you accountable to the task
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and things you're
supposed to be working on,
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the things that are a priority.
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The things that matter most to you,
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the things that you should
be exerting the most energy
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and time on in your day.
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Having that organized schedule
is really, really important.
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Now this year was a little bit different
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with the COVID pandemic.
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I learned firsthand, I am not a teacher,
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at least not when it comes to my son.
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I had a lot of stress and anxiety
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about trying to juggle work
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and be present with my son for
that when he needed me most.
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And that was to become really the educator
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in his life during that time.
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My solution to that was
creating our weekly schedule,
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where we were on task.
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And it still allowed me to
plan time in my day for work.
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Now, if you're working eight-to-five,
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or maybe you are at home now
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because you're not working
from your normal location
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at your day job,
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then setting up some type of
weekly schedule in your life
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will really help with that.
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The next thing we're going to
look at is my writing desk.
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Now I know we talked about
having a dedicated plan.
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Now I use, and we'll just move
my workbook out of the way,
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I use the Live Rich Planner.
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This helps with my work/life balance 100%.
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So it allows me to literally
plan out every area of my life.
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Now this is my week from
the 13th to the 19th.
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But if we look at my weekly view,
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this is my weekly view for this week.
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Remember how I was talking about finding
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and making sure that you're
spending time and energy
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on the things that make
you happy as an individual,
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being the best version of yourself
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so you can be the best person for others.
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Mine looks like this: I just block out
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a dedicated time in my day for myself.
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And as you can see, most of
the time that's working out.
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So I have a dedicated plan,
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time set aside to make
sure that these things
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are taken care of.
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Now, I obviously, like I have my cleaning,
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I have our meal plans, but I
have those dedicated spaces
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in my organized schedule
to do those things.
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Having a planner for me in my life
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where I can do my brain dumps,
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where I can organize my schedule,
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where it can put the tasks
that need to be taken care of,
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it really does help.
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And this even has all the
different priority tasks
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that I need to complete every single day.
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And then of course, as you guys all know,
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I also utilize to help
with organizing my life,
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I use the Budget by Paycheck Workbook,
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and this handles the
finance aspect of my life.
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It's funny, a lot of people,
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when they think about work/life balance,
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they don't think about all
the things that that entails.
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I like to look at my life
as not cut off portions
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for each thing like planning,
finances, mom, work, partner.
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For me, those aren't all separated
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and in their own thing.
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To me, it's like they have open gates
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and they leak out into
other different areas.
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They're all commingled.
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And to be really good at say
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something in your professional life,
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the habits and skills that you learn there
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also trickle into other areas
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that you're wanting to improve
your life, maybe finances.
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You bring those skills and
habits that you learn in one area
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to other areas of your life.
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And really embracing that, like for me,
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when I think about and worry
about work/life balance,
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I don't think, oh, just being a good mom
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or being a good coworker.
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I have to think about
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every other little aspect of
my life that comes into it.
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So those are just some of
the things that I implement
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into my own life to help
with work/life balance.
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