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(suspenseful music)
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- Do you wanna start
this off, or should I?
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- Sure.
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Ashton, Daddy and I have some bad news.
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- Your mother and I, well,
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our relationship is on the rocks.
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- Wait, what?
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- Well, honey, there's
no right way to say this.
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Sweetie, we're getting a divorce.
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- Divorce?
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Oh, my God.
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Is this because of me?
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- Well, no.
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- Let's just say becoming
parents didn't help our marriage.
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- No, it did not.
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- Divorce, it's never easy
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talking to your children about it,
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but blaming them or each
other, say the experts,
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are some of the worst things you can do.
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You're at a restaurant
when you see a couple
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doing exactly that, and in the
process, hurting their child.
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What would you do?
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- So, this is all my fault.
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(echoing)
All my fault.
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Because of me, all my
fault, because of me.
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Oh, my God.
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- [John] We're at the Red Oak
Diner in Hazlet, New Jersey.
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Traci and Tyler are getting a divorce,
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but they're doing it all horribly wrong,
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with 11 year old Ashton
caught in the middle.
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- We have bad news to tell you,
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and I don't know the right way to say it.
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- Oh, no.
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- [John] This couple
sitting at the next table
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already seem to sense that
Traci and Tyler's relationship
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is on the rocks.
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- Do you wanna say it, or
do you want me to say it?
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- Well, I mean.
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- So then let me say it.
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I don't understand why you
don't just let me talk.
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- Okay, go ahead and say it, say it.
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- [Traci] We're getting a divorce.
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- Divorce?
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- [John] And now they have a ringside seat
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to an increasingly ugly family ordeal.
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- [Traci] He has a mistress.
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- [Tyler] Oh, come on.
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- [Traci] He's having an affair,
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so we're getting a divorce.
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- What about our family?
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- [Traci] We don't have a family, sweetie.
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We don't have a family anymore.
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It's just you and me.
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- [Tyler] Hey, hey, come on.
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- [John] As our parents
battle, they exchange looks.
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- [Traci] Well, thank you for
ruining your child's life.
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That's all I wanna say, okay?
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You're the one that's
caused this whole problem.
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- [Tyler] Oh, come on.
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- [John] And when we tell Tyler and Traci
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to leave the table,
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- [Ashton] This is all my fault.
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- [John] they remain silent.
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But when Traci is alone at the table,
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Meredith Zebro speaks up.
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- I'm sorry that you
have to go through that.
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- I mean, we're doing
this right, aren't we?
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- Your son is the one that matters
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the most through all of it.
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My cousin went through
the same thing, but,
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like, their son was the
most important thing.
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We would see them argue,
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but it wasn't like they
would let us see them
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like, get really mad.
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Like, they would step away.
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- [John] And that's when we step in.
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Hi, how are you?
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I'm John Quinones.
- Oh, my God.
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- You gave her advice.
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- Yeah, you shouldn't be
hearing about their situation.
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And what his dad did.
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- [John] And these next two dads agree.
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- [Dad] You need to stress
to him that Daddy loves him.
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- Oh, this is good, this is good.
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- What do you recommend that I tell my son
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about the divorce?
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- Listen, I made a mistake
and Daddy loves you.
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You have to reinforce how
much you love the kid.
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That's all you can do.
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- [John] Throughout the
day, a lot of people
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chose the hands off approach
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to our divorcing parents who were
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breaking it so badly to their son.
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- [Traci] It's not easy being
married and having a kid.
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No, it's not.
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- [Ashton] What, I thought you liked me?
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- It's breaking my heart.
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- As a matter of fact, you can keep this.
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Cheap ass ring.
(ring clattering)
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- [John] This dad actually
moves to another table.
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- I went through a divorce myself,
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so I felt very bad for that child.
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- [John] And so does this mother of two.
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- [Traci] Don't lie to him.
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You told me not to lie to
him, I'm not lying to him.
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- It's a group effort,
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and that group effort
has failed on your part.
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- [John] But she suffers silently.
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- [Traci] Sweetie, your dad is a bad man.
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He is a bad man.
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He's a liar.
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- Too personal.
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I wasn't gonna get up and say something.
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I just don't feel that,
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whatever parents are going through,
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do not talk bad about the other parent.
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No matter what it is to that child.
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- Are you a mom, too, or are you not?
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- I am, no, I'm a mom.
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The father and I were not together,
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and that was the rule that we had.
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The child needs both parents,
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and they need to feel that
both parents love them.
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- [John] We're back at
the diner one last time.
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- You know what, you're
a jerk, you're a jerk.
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- [John] At the next
table are four friends.
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- We're getting a divorce, your dad and I.
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- Divorce?
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- Divorce.
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- [Ashton] What?
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- [Tyler] Hey, hey, hey, it's not-
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- [Ashton] A divorce?
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- [Traci] Yes.
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- [John] Each one of
them a child of divorce.
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- [Tyler] This is not the
end of the world, okay?
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- It is the end of the world!
- Hey!
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- [John] They know that for a child,
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it can feel like the world is ending.
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- [Traci] Come on.
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- [Tyler] God, hold,
I gotta call you back.
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- [Traci] What, what?
- This is ridiculous.
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- What the (beep)?
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- [John] When the parents walk away,
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leaving their heartbroken son alone,
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- I'm mind blown.
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- [John] Michael Windencinet
swoops in to comfort Ashton.
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- It's not your fault.
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Nothing you could've done, that could've
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changed what happened.
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That's your parent's decision.
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This happened to me when
I was five years old.
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My parents split up.
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But you'll get through it though.
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It's not your fault though.
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You gotta realize that.
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Okay?
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- [John] One of the friends gets up
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to go look for Ashton's parents.
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- Like, he's upset.
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- Well, were you bothering him?
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- No, we were talking to him, helping him.
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- He said he's upset, and
he thinks it's his fault.
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- [Traci] Well, it kind of is his fault.
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- Wow.
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- What?
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- [Traci] Well, maybe you
should mind your own business.
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(arguing)
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Okay.
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- Oh, my God.
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- I'm sorry, it's a tough
time that we're going through.
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- Don't make him feel like it's his fault,
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'cause it's not.
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- [Traci] Well, I'm not trying to make it-
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- Well, then you're going
about it the wrong way.
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- [John] Yes, they're
doing it the wrong way,
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but luckily, it's for "What Would You Do?"
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- Oh, I knew it!
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(beep)
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Oh, my God!
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- [John] You went through it?
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- Yeah, that exact thing happened to me.
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- I went through the same thing, divorce.
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I was probably 13 or 12.
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- My parents got divorced
when I was 11 years old.
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- My parents split up
when I was, like, five.
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- You were amazing.
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You went over to the little boy.
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- I really didn't know what to say.
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I just tried to, like, calm him down,
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and make sure that he
knows it wasn't his fault.
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- You don't understand
when you're that young.
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- I was that little,
so it's like, it's sad.
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- [John] You could relate.
- Yeah.
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- Your message to people
who see this sort of thing?
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- Never blame anything.
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- Why?
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- 'Cause the kids always
feel like it's their fault.
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And it's not.
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