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I have a confession to make: I have been obsessed with weddings for as long as I can remember.

Seriously, I had a stack of bridal magazines by the time I was 7.

So by the time I got that sparkly ring on my finger, I was a prime target for the $56

billion a year Wedding Industrial Complex.

Which, surprise surprise, wasn’t exactly looking out for our (or our parents’) financial

health.

According to The Knot’s yearly survey, the average cost of a 2017 wedding in America

was a whopping $33,000--not including the honeymoon!!

That’s a downpayment on a house y’all!

You don’t have to be a wedding junkie like me to feel the pressure to overspend, and

even pennypinchers can quickly find their wedding costs spiraling out of control.

So how can you avoid your nuptials turning into a matri-money pit?

Like most good planning, setting goals and boundaries early is the key to success.

Last year, only 10% of couples paid for their entire wedding on their own.

That means that for most people, families help foot the bill.

Now, family and money can be as volatile a combo as matches and gasoline, so make sure

you set some boundaries early on.

Have frank and loving discussions with anyone who might help about how much they’ll contribute

and what kind of say in the planning that entitles them to.

Before you take that check from Uncle Ted, you should know whether he thinks he’ll

get to pick the menu.

How much money you’ll be able to put in depends on you financial situation, but make

yourself one ironclad promise: NO DEBT.

After years of working with young couples, I can’t tell you how many start off their

lives together with wedding debt shackled around their ankles.

Incredibly, 74% of couples say they plan to go into debt to pay for wedding costs.

Guys…

I just…

I can’t even.

Don’t get me wrong, weddings are important, but unlike a house or an education, they’re

not investments, so they’re not something you should go into debt over.

The IFDA cites that 22% of marriages end in divorce specifically due to financial stress.

So spending more than you can afford on your wedding may be actually working against the

very thing your wedding is supposed to represent!

That’s way more ironic than rain on your wedding day.

Don’t ya think?

Once you know how much money you have to work with, it’s time to start budgeting!

Okay!

Let’s see…

There’s the cake, the dress, the invites, the save-the-dates, the food, the venue, the

entertainment, the precious hand-made bow ties for your doggie ring-bearers--the rings!

the favors, the photos, the videos, the flowers, the ribbons, the chairs, the minister, the,

the…. [she gets faint, Philip helps her from tipping over] Sorry, just got a little

overwhelmed there.

There’s virtually no end the the list of things you could spend money on, so do yourself

a favor and decide what THREE THINGS are most important to you, and focus on them.

For us, it was the food, the photos, and the music.

We promised ourselves we wouldn’t scrimp on those things, but that meant everything

else was up for debate.

For instance, you can go digital with your invites.

Of course it would be lovely to have hand-lettered save-the-dates on 100 lb. ecru shimmer wrap,

but why be precious about something that’s gonna end up in the garbage?

We also ditched the favors.

I’ve seen too many receptions where everyone just left their heart-shaped cork coasters

on the tables.

And my personal favorite hack: we had a beautiful two-tier handmade cake that served about 30,

and Costco cakes for the other 100.

I didn’t hear any complaints!

Hey, if you can afford to go all out on these items, that’s great, but on our budget,

it wasn’t worth compromising the things we really cared about.

You can also take respectful advantage of your friends’ skills and resources.

Maybe you have a sibling who’s a baker, an aunt who takes great photos, or a cousin

who’s a DJ.

(Actually, I’m pretty sure everyone has a cousin who’s a DJ.)

Asking for help in lieu of gifts is a great way to cut costs and honor the talents of

the people close to you.

For example, my uncle happens to be a world-class cellist and he was more than happy to play

for us!

Of course, remember that relying on favors does mean you can’t be as demanding or expect

professional-grade work if someone is a hobbyist.

You may be listening to all this in horror, thinking, “How can I possibly scrimp on

any of these things?

This is my special day!

I’m trying to create a memorable experience!”

Well, you’re not alone.

While the average guest count is going down, the amount spent per guest has increased from

$194 in 2009 to $268 in 2017.

And spending on custom guest entertainment more than tripled!

Most couples really want to give their guests a truly memorable experience.

But here’s the thing that most wedding planners don’t want you to know: People have poor

memories.

Practically everything about your special day will be forgotten sooner than you imagine.

Uncle Ted won’t remember exactly what he had for dinner--he’ll just remember whether

it was served on time.

Your high school friends won’t remember what kind of napkins the drinks came with--just

whether they had to pay for those drinks.

Think about all the weddings you’ve been to and what details stuck with you.

Having your first glass of champagne?

A teary-eyed speech by the best man?

Seeing Grandma and Grandpa dance to their favorite song?

The moments we remember the most often have nothing to do with how much they cost.

And that’s our two cents!

I won’t lie, when we got married at the ripe old age of 20, my wedding had already

been 15 years in the making.

As long as I can remember, I’ve been obsessed with weddings.

I had stacks of bridal magazines by the time I was 7.

So by the time I got that sparkly ring on my finger I was a prime target for the 56

Billion dollar wedding industry.

Which surprise surprise, wasn’t exactly looking out for mine or my parents financial

health.

And get this, according to The Knot’s yearly survey, the average cost of a 2017 wedding

in America was a whopping $33,391 not including the honeymoon!!

(That’s a downpayment on a house y’all!)

Thankfully, there tons of amazing cost-cutting ideas that Google can provide you but today

we’ll share the 5 pieces of financial advice to get the wedding you want without regretting

it later.

(but I promise I’ll tack on a few of my personal favorites at the end).

Focus on three things.

- There is NO end to the list of things you could buy for your wedding.

The cake, the dress, the invites, the save-the-dates, the food, the flowers, the entertainment,

the venue, the precious hand-made bow ties for your doggie ring-bearers…I could go

on and on.

Do yourself a favor and pinpoint the top three most important items.

For example, the food and the photos were the most important to us.

Food is the #1 thing guests seem to care about and the photos last forever!

So we decided not to scrimp there and pretty much everything else was up for a cut.

Clearly communicate financial expectations.

- In 2017, only 10% of couples paid for weddings entirely by themselves.

Meaning, that for the other 90% of couples, there is family involved.

Money and family often go together like gas and matches.

Especially when it comes to wedding time and people tend to have very strong opinions.

It’s super important to have a frank and loving conversation with any parents or family

who might be contributing to the expenses.

Set your boundaries firmly as SOON as you can budget-wise AND decision-making wise.

This can save you untold amounts of stress and money to boot.

Swear off debt.

- After years of working with young couples, I can’t tell you how many come to me with

the shackles of wedding debt attached to their ankles.

As a matter of fact 74% of couples say they PLAN to go into debt to pay for wedding costs.

But the IFDA cites that 22% of marriages end in divorce specifically due to money fights

and stress.

Please Don’t do this to yourself or anyone else involved in your weddings finances.

Agree up front that everyone financially involved will stick to paying for what they can afford.

Take respectful advantage of your friends talents & resources!

- Believe it or not, your friends and family are probably chock-full of talents.

Be it baking, photography, crafting or heck, anyone can stuff an envelope!

Asking for their help in lieu of gifts is an amazing way to both cut costs and honor

the talents of the people closest to you.

For example, Philips uncle happened to be a world-class cellist and he was more than

happy to play for us!

Of course, be careful to not over-ask and don’t expect professional-grade work if

someone is a hobbyist.

Remember that you probably won’t remember.

- Statistics seem to show that while the average guest count is going down, the amount spent

per guest has increased from $194 in 2009 to $268 in 2017 and spending on custom guest

entertainment more than tripled!

People care deeply about providing their guests a memorable experience.

But unfortunately, practically everything about your special day is probably going to

be forgotten sooner than you imagine.

Neither you nor your guests will remember exactly what was on the menu, only that they

got fed in a timely manner and didn’t have to pay for the booze.

And I’ve personally been to some really high-budget weddings and potluck weddings

that were equally as wonderful to be at.

Remember, your wedding day isn’t the finish-line.

It’s the starting gate!

Go ahead!

Plan an amazing party, but make sure the amount of time and money you spend on the wedding

itself is balanced by investing in your future as a couple.

And that’s our two-cents!