WHAT IS KINK? WHY KINK IS BETTER | The Sex Talk with Mou (Moushumi Ghose) and Jenoa - YouTube

Hi there I'm Genoa hi mo, we are here today having the sex toy a sex talk today, we wanted to talk about

Something that has been up a lot in the last year, too

because of that book Fifty Shades of Grey and introducing this whole idea of

kinky sex with men BDSM into

Normal American culture. Yeah, which is cool mainstream so the question is what is kink and

That's an interesting question because I feel like we've been part of the

kink

community for long times positive yeah, but in the 80s and 90s

Being gay or lesbian or LGBT as they call it. It was considered Kiki

It was considered king so for a long time

I didn't like the word kinky, and I didn't like the idea of kink because in my

My sexuality is totally natural and normal

I also consider leather and all the different types of fetish and all those other things to be completely natural as well

Right I have since gotten more

into and

Embracing of the word kink well, let's let's sort of define them

What is king because it doesn't sound like being gay and lesbian is really considered king not anymore no

It's more having to do with like leather

non vanilla sex

some fetishes

Fetishes bondage. I mean yeah, you can do some like light bondage. I think and it's kind of vanilla really all right

BDSM

domination submission roleplay mmm-hmm Media sandwich stands for

bondage discipline

Say to them in masochism. I mean basically what it is sadism are people that like to inflict pain physical or

psychological and masochists like to receive pain either physical or psychological mm-hm bondage and discipline

is about power in this change or power who is in charge and what they're forcing the person right not in charge to do and

Some people really get off on being controlled in all these different ways and then some people get off on controlling others

right, and I think that all falls under the umbrella is king, so that's king so I

Kind of think that King is a little bit better like people that are involved in the King community

Are a little bit more aware

Kink is way better than the King community. They know exactly what they want

There are so many rules in the King community because you are dealing with

pain and inflicting pain and controlling people

and you know you could actually hurt people with these things if you don't have all these rules in communication in place so

People in these communities they they know exactly what they like what they're doing there's all these agreements and respect

it's sort of like an art of

Sexuality and because they're so immersed into a community that's all about sexuality

They're more more knowledgeable and they're more aware and they're constantly processing all the different dynamics

That come up in sexual play and therefore like you said with all the rules and everything they're just a lot more

conscientious about their needs and their partner's needs as opposed to

Person who just blindly gets into a sexual relationship because that's either what they're supposed to do or

It feels good, and they're just sort of you know going with the flow because or it's a side note to fall in love

Right right as in the king community. It's very focused and specific and communicated and

Adored and elevated, and yeah, there's just and so I mean it's a great place to and there's a lot of

kink resources

Especially in the cities where we lo

I live in LA and you live in San Francisco, so if you live in a big city you can

Get involved in the community and not just not because you want to do something kinky or you want to play BDSM

Or anything like that, but just to sort of surround yourself around more sex-positive people so become more aware of

The rules involved in sex it's all about consent

Recognizing that and I think that it's you're just sort of going blindly into sex and relationships that

underlying factor of consent sometimes gets blurry so really

The kink community is so focused on that yeah

I think oh if the vanilla community could learn a lot from that actually absolutely

And also in the kink world of voyeurism

It is perfectly okay to go to an event and just watch so if you're interested

But you're like don't know where to start

But you're interested in sort of public sex or kinky sex or sex acts you can go to an event

And just walk around and watch as totally say of dungeons that have workshops

Or you can hire a dominatrix to write do whatever you call them up and say I'd like to try this yeah

And they will respect your limits

And it's total there's complete boundaries on these type of relationships weird shits gonna happen if that's what you want

Yeah

So Google BDSM in your town feel free to email us if you want more resources and we can point you in the right direction

Oh, yeah, right info at the sex talk series calm or on Twitter basically get kinky get kinky

We're all about it, and you should be too. Yeah