7 Things Men Do To Ruin Their Lives | The Bedros Keuilian Show E023 - YouTube

Channel: Bedros Keuilian

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because a man
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who is settling into a profession and
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not pursuing their life's work is a man
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who was slowly committing suicide
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welcome to the bedrose coolian show
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what's Happening friends welcome to
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another episode of the bedrose coolian
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show and today we're going to talk about
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seven things that men do to ruin their
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lives but um before we jump into that I
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want to share another story with you
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guys I told you guys probably a few
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episodes ago the story of when I worked
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in a gay club and a drunk gay lesbian
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beat the [ __ ] out of me and I was just
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bloodied by the time I kicked her out so
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here's another story for you something
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probably not as funny but definitely a
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cautionary Tale
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how the wrong friends can lead you down
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a wrong path but um here we go so
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believe it or not I was once involved in
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a police helicopter chase and I was the
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one in the car trying to get away from
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the coppers well one of the things we we
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did me and a few friends is we realized
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that people have possessions in their
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homes that are valuable that you can
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take to a pawn shop and
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basically Pawn them for money and the
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pawn shops back then at least I don't
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know how they do it now but they don't
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say [ __ ] well this one time they go into
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the house and within like 20 seconds
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they come running out to my friends come
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running out actually three of them if I
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remember correctly I almost mentioned
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name of one of the dudes but I'm not
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gonna do that three of them came running
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out and uh they're like drive drive so
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they jump in the truck I start driving
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and I think we're free and clear and
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before you know it I see a helicopter
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and it seems like you know each time
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like a left-hand turn it kind of turns
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left before I make a right-hand turn
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it's kind of tracing me and tracking me
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and then I look in my mirrors and I see
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what looks like unmarked police cars
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um two one on either side of me but kind
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of a car two behind right I'm like all
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right guys I think the coppers are on to
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us so we're gonna try and get away well
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you've got a 79 Toyota pickup you ain't
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getting away right in Southern
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California you know if you have a fast
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car you can probably hit the highway and
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and hopefully try and get away without
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causing any damage I've got a 79 Toyota
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pickup the year was like early 90s ain't
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no way I'm getting away so my strategy
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was all right guys I'm gonna drive into
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this gas station as soon as I drive in
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I'm gonna stop put the truck in park and
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uh we all need to just run out different
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ways because they can't catch us all and
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if they do catch one of us or any of us
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then we just have to keep our mouth shut
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so that's the strategy and of course as
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luck would have it as soon as I pull
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into the into the uh gas station the cop
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cars just come and slam my doors so I
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can't open my doors and you know come
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out with guntron and they empty the
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truck and um there you go now here's
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what happens next
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um that that was a big fork in the road
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in my life and I want to share this with
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you and this is in line with what I'm
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going to kind of share with you guys
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today the seven things that men do to
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ruin their lives
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Well turns out there was this little old
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lady who lived in this house right which
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really sucks man like I I especially
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didn't didn't want to scare freak out
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anyone and we had no intention to be to
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use any violence against anybody the
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idea was to go into an empty house steal
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some [ __ ] take off go to a pawn shop
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well lo and behold
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another cop car brings her
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and so now they've got all of us sitting
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um
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kind of on the hood of another cop car
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and she's inside of this other cop car
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maybe about 10 15 yards in front of us
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and she's pointing out three of my
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friends and nodding her head yes as
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though she recognized him she recognizes
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him she recognizes him and then she
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points to me and then kind of shakes her
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head no like I don't I don't recognize
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that guy it was because of that that was
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the fork in the road for me that my
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friends ended up going to jail
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and I ended up going free that day and
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that day I was like you know what this
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is it it's over and so I share this with
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you because those of you that are
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parents uh you got to know where your
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kids are at even when they're teens and
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I love my mom and dad they brought us
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here from from the Soviet Union and they
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risked their lives to bring us to an
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amazing country
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but here's what happened next they
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really didn't instill any core values in
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me right it was just one of those things
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go to school shut your mouth we're busy
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trying to you know make money and put a
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roof over your head which I totally
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understand and respect
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but guess what Idle Hands Are The
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Devil's Playground and so I wasn't in
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any sports I didn't have any core values
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my grades were poor no one ever
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corrected me to tell me to get my grades
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right and so I ended up hanging out with
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the wrong dudes and that led to that
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particular day in my life where I could
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have ended up going to jail
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but thankfully
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things worked out in my favor where she
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wasn't able to identify me and um I made
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the commitment that day that I'm going
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to be a very different type of person
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and so that is that story there but um
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today I want to talk to you guys about
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seven things that men do to ruin their
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lives and this is a really really a
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byproduct of you know for gosh 18 years
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now I've been coaching entrepreneurs of
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all walks of life
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across many different Industries
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dentists doctors guys that own solar
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companies
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um you know internet marketers coaches
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coaches people that came from NFL and
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and uh who who stopped you know
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professional sports and decided to
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become entrepreneurs and needed business
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coaching like I've coached every Walk of
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Life dudes from the Special Operations
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community of all all branches of the
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military you name the entrepreneur I've
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coached and through the project
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I get to see a lot of men you know we've
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run now 16 classes and I get to see a
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lot of men come through the project and
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during those 75 hours as I talk to them
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and get to meet them and understand and
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hear their stories I realize there's
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some common threads that ruin a man's
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life and every single one of these are
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things that men do to themselves to end
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up ruining their lives and I want to
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share these with you as a not only as a
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cautionary Tale But as an opportunity
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for you to go holy [ __ ] I'm doing this
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and I need to fix this or if you have a
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son
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and you know that son needs to hear some
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of the stuff that I'm sharing with you
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here either let him listen to this or
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instill this message in him because the
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things I'm going to share with you here
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are going to serve as a cautionary tale
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and an opportunity for you to right the
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wrong in your life or in the life of
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someone that you love right so let's
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jump into it thing number one choosing
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the wrong spouse in fact they've done
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studies on this over and over again and
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the number one determining factor of a
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man's success is who he chooses as a
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wife and the reality is this when you
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choose someone as a wife are you
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choosing someone who is going to be a
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believer in your dream who's going to
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advocate for you who is going to be the
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wind in your sails who is going to be
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your support system and hopefully you're
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going to do all of that for her as well
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right or are you rescuing someone are
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you the type of man who is the Captain
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Save A Hoe for a lack of a better term
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are you trying to rescue her from
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because she's broken she's damaged and
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and she is co-dependent on you and it
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feels good in that moment while you're
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dating her so next thing you know you
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put a ring on it and then she is chaotic
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she is sporadic she is not a supporter
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of your dreams she is emotionally
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Reckless and therefore every time you
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try and launch a business you try and do
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something great you try and live your
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life's purpose
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you have to deal with the chaos that is
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your spouse right now obviously this
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goes the other way as well you know how
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many women try and marry men who are
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just like their dads who were broken who
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were mean who were angry who were
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[ __ ] so they are attracted to that
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kind of man because they want to fix him
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and they realize that they are now
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living a life of
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just unsatisfactory life right you don't
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have a modern day night as a man they
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don't have a man who's a great protector
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who's a provider who is a gentleman and
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they're like [ __ ] man I didn't sign up
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for this well you kind of did you made a
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choice so choosing the wrong spouse is
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one of the determining factors of
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failure in fact the number one highest
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determining factor of failure so this
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doesn't mean I don't know what you need
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to do like if you're like holy [ __ ] bro
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you just described my wife like she does
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not support me she's chaotic she drinks
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and then we end up arguing and you know
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I want to do this but she wants to do
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that I want to be 2.0 she's comfortable
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being 1.0 guess what bro help her level
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up right every human can change every
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human can change and if you really love
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her if you really want to be with her
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then you would find a way to introduce
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her to self-development personal
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development maybe she needs to work with
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the therapist I've worked with the
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therapist for 15 months going through my
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[ __ ] right on [ __ ] myself and so
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maybe you need to do the same thing
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with your wife and invest in her and let
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her know that you support her and you
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want her to become 2.0 now at some point
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if the answer is no I don't want to then
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you're going to have to make a decision
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is this a woman that I want to be with
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and if it's not then you're going to
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have to make a decision thing number two
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Vice dependency right
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let's face it it's a lot of vices out
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there and some of them come off as very
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harmless right the occasional drinking
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the uh Hey I just smoke weed
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occasionally
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um
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just watch a TV show every now and again
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or I just watch you know Sports all
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weekend long but how much of that those
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little vices are there to help you
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escape
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and to help you cope with your reality
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like I get it even though I quit social
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drinking recently and in fact what I
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didn't share with you guys in the video
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a few episodes ago
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um the podcast a few episodes ago when I
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told you that on November 12th of 2022 I
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quit social drinking right I was never
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an alcoholic I never had an issue or
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dependency with alcohol but I realized
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every time I drink a couple of cocktails
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three or four times a year
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I don't sleep all that night I get
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indigestion I get heartburn the next
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morning I wake up and I'm fuzzy headed
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and I'm a little foggy and I almost like
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a slight hangover and I was like why am
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I doing this right so that same day then
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I quit to that I committed and quit
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drinking alcohol and I was like you know
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what
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That's it man I'm done with this well
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what is the other thing that I might
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have a
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codependency on and that other thing for
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me was weed right every now and again I
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would either smoke a joint or eat some
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you know three milligram gummies before
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I fall asleep to help me sleep better
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but I realized you know that too is a
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vice that too is a level of dependency
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even though it's mild I didn't want it
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because I want to be able to control my
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faculties fully and completely and so
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because of that I decided to quit all
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vices now those vices show up as a vape
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pen you might be like bro my vape pen is
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no no it is something it is a dependency
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it is something that is incongruent if
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you wouldn't want your son or your
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daughter picking up the vape pen
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if you wouldn't want your son or
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daughter drinking occasionally if you're
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going to want your son or daughter to
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you know smoke weed occasionally or eat
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a gummy occasionally if you don't we
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don't want them to binge watch
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television in exchange for you know
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bypassing their life's purpose because
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they watch so much TV that they slept in
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and they didn't they didn't focus on
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their work and they didn't focus on
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their Fitness and their mindset right
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there's so many vices vices show up as
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gambling oh we just went to Vegas and we
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gambled well
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is there better things you can do with
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that money
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doesn't gambling create dopamine hits
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because of a factor called variable
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response variable response mean am I
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going to win this hand am I going to win
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this hand or if I pull the slot machine
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am I going to win this am I going to win
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this role no I didn't but I almost got
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close to winning I had a 19 they had a
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20. the next one is going to be a 21 for
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sure that's called variable response and
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you get these dopamine hits from
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gambling so never mind the fact that you
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might potentially lose a lot of money
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and I get it like hey man when you
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gamble maybe you have a limit and it's
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fun I'm not saying don't have fun but
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I'm just telling you
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if you are conditioning yourself to get
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dopamine hits from things that are not
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necessarily related to achievement
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hard work
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you know thinking through a problem uh
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launching a business building a business
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serving your family in your community
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if you're getting cheap dopamine hits
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from booze and weed and television and
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food and alcohol and pornography
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gambling
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is it really worth it right these are
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Vice dependencies now on the flip side
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look if you are straight up addicted to
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pornography if you're addicted to
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gambling addicted to food addicted to
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nicotine addicted to alcohol drugs like
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you got a bigger [ __ ] issue like you
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are an incongruent person with the man
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that you want to be am I right
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like every single one of us inside
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through Consciousness we know exactly
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the type of man we want to be like you
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know exactly the type of man you want to
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be the core values you want to carry the
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character you want to have how you want
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to show up how you want to articulate
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how you want to look how you want to
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dress
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how you want people to perceive you
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and if you are incongruent with that
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because you have these dependencies on
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vices
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then you might as well get rid of them
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because this is thing number two of the
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stupid things that men do to ruin their
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lives because all of these things on a
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micro scale is a non-issue on the macro
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scale over years and then decades is how
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you ruin your life is how you look back
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when you're in your 40s 50s 60s 70s and
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realize
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that man this is who I was supposed to
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be but instead I'm way over here
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because
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of these micro decisions I made
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to get addicted or to at least get
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dependent on vices that didn't serve my
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life
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thing number three that men do to ruin
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their life is they settle in a
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profession they settle in a profession
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and they don't pursue their life's work
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they go well you know I've got a wife
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I've got a kid so I need to create this
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income I need to get a paycheck coming
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in on a consistent basis and it comes
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with health benefits and vacation pay
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and I get it 401k and all that stuff you
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settle in in a profession that you're
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not necessarily excited about I'm not
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saying like quit your job tomorrow and
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put your family and your livelihood at
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risk but what I am saying is if you're
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doing something and you're in a state of
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just being this robot coming in and
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mindlessly working for an organization
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that you don't necessarily get value
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from that doesn't necessarily fill your
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cup
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what can you start doing on nights and
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weekends to start creating that
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purpose-driven work
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to start figuring out what you want to
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do
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either by working for another
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organization that is more aligned with
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your life's work and purpose or creating
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your own business that is aligned with
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your core purpose
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because a man
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who is settling into a profession and
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not pursuing their life's work is a man
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who was slowly committing suicide I am
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convinced of that
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the slowest form of suicide the slowest
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form of death is to be doing something
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as a vocation that is not your life's
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work or passion or purpose
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and it is just there to make money and
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to feed your family and put a roof over
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their head I get it as commendable and
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admirable
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but man it sure is a great way to ruin
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your life in the long term so use those
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nights and weekends while everyone else
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is watching football and getting getting
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stupid watching television or doing dumb
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[ __ ] at night you ought to be the one
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doing the work on your life's purpose to
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be able to go man I love working for
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this organization like maybe if you're a
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big Elon Musk fan maybe you ought to
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figure out how you can work for Tesla or
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SpaceX or whatever right like that
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doesn't mean you have to go and start a
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business start a company and put put the
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risk out there I am convinced that not
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everyone needs to be an entrepreneur I
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can tell you that right now not everyone
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on this planet needs to be an
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entrepreneur not everyone is cut out to
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be an entrepreneur in fact a very small
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percentage of humanity is cut out to be
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an entrepreneur the risks that comes
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with it however what are you doing to at
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least work in an organization that is
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aligned with your core values
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where you like look forward to coming
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into
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that that compensates you well
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has an opportunity for you to grow both
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in title and recognition and pay
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think about that and if you're not doing
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that
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you're just that rat on a hamster wheel
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and how long are you going to do that
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before your fire is completely
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extinguished right
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number four
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of seven things that men do to ruin
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their lives
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they complain
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listen I'm not saying that you should
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internalize everything but I am saying
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if you're the dude that complains
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and adopts this victim mindset but you
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don't do anything about it
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then you deserve the suffering that
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you're experiencing
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you cannot complain about things
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complaining about things all it does is
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it's like throwing oxygen on fire right
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so to be
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to be unhappy about something is very
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reasonable to complain about something
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is reasonable
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to complain and be unhappy and not do
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anything about it is stupid it is being
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a victim and I know you my friend are
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not a victim
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and I can tell you this right now
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people around you aren't going to tell
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you but if you're like man why do people
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not want to hang out with me why do
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people kind of distance themselves from
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me
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if you're that low tone low energy
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complainer victim mindset dude that's
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just kind of every time people go hey
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man how's it going you're like oh you
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know hanging in there you're the hanging
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in there guy hey how's it going bro
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hanging and hanging think about that
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little saying everybody stops that
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[ __ ] saying but hanging in there I
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just picked her someone off a cliff
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white knuckling holding on just hanging
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in there man I'm just hanging life is
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not meant to be hung in there life is
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meant to be experienced life is meant to
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be enjoyed life is meant to be
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challenged life is meant to have
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suffering and adversity but all of life
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should not be suffering and adversity
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there is joy and fulfillment and
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significance in life and if you don't
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have it if you're just hanging in there
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what the [ __ ] are you doing man you're
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slowly putting out your fire and by
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complaining to everyone and I'm hanging
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in there man you know thank God it's
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Friday thank God it's the weekend don't
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be like that man don't be that person
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because soon you end up being the Eeyore
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you know like Winnie the Pooh e or that
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little depressed sad pathetic donkey
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hey Eeyore what's going on oh I don't
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know you know just uh getting by who the
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[ __ ] wants to hang out with that man not
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me not you so [ __ ] flip the switch
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and do something about it thing number
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five that men do
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to ruin their lives
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it is not sticking with the [ __ ] that
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you say You're Gonna Do not finishing
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what you start
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when a man does not stick to the things
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that he says he's going to do like you
[1142]
got a business idea and then you launch
[1143]
it and before you start making money and
[1145]
it starts getting traction you just let
[1147]
it go and you mob you know idea Fairy
[1149]
comes and you go on to the next thing
[1151]
that's [ __ ] stupid bro you're
[1153]
creating a pattern in the habit each
[1155]
time you start something and you don't
[1156]
finish it one you're losing credibility
[1158]
with yourself you're losing your own
[1160]
reputation you lose reputation with
[1162]
yourself and others people go wow that
[1164]
guy has a failure to launch every time
[1166]
he starts something he tells everyone
[1168]
he's got a new idea he's about to make
[1169]
this change he's about to lose weight
[1170]
he's about to improve his marriage he's
[1172]
about to stop drinking he's about to
[1173]
start making money he's about to impact
[1175]
the world and then you stop
[1177]
you stopped before that thing happens
[1180]
here's a rule that I have when I start
[1182]
something I finish it now if people that
[1184]
I that I trust and I love and I admire
[1187]
my advisors are like hey betroth that's
[1190]
a stupid idea right uh tap dance shoes
[1193]
for pigeons was a stupid idea Beatrice
[1196]
how did you think of that and why did
[1198]
you create that that will never work and
[1201]
it comes from people that I love respect
[1202]
and and and and and take their advice
[1206]
yeah I'll stop that for sure
[1209]
but if something has the ability to be
[1212]
successful but I just stop it and I
[1215]
don't stick with it because it's hard
[1216]
because it's difficult because the going
[1218]
got tough all of life
[1221]
comes with its sets of adversities and
[1224]
setbacks and speed bumps that is how
[1225]
life tests you to see if you are worthy
[1227]
of Happiness of success of Financial
[1229]
Freedom of abundance of Love could you
[1231]
imagine if like the very first chick you
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met was like a 10 across the board on
[1236]
everything
[1238]
hot
[1239]
fit beautiful
[1241]
like a lady in the streets a freak in
[1244]
the bed
[1246]
no that ain't gonna happen bro that
[1248]
ain't gonna happen
[1249]
you have to go
[1251]
and interview and date
[1254]
enough women until you find the one that
[1256]
you Jive and connect with because they
[1258]
align with your core values right and so
[1261]
understand
[1262]
that it's the same thing here
[1265]
if you're willing to do that in your in
[1267]
your in your relational life why not do
[1270]
that in your rest of the part of your
[1272]
life like like why have a short
[1274]
attention span where you start something
[1275]
and you don't finish and soon you create
[1277]
this pattern and people get to know you
[1278]
as the person that starts and never
[1280]
finishes like the false start guy I
[1281]
never want to be the Fall start guy I
[1283]
have a rule for myself when I start
[1284]
something I finish it unless an advisor
[1286]
or two who I trust love and respect
[1288]
tells me it's a bad idea
[1290]
and then I just move on dump it don't
[1292]
think twice about it even if I lost a
[1293]
lot of money and that's happened to me
[1295]
before
[1296]
thing number six
[1298]
that men do to ruin their lives
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and it is when they don't have core
[1302]
values they have no non-negotiables they
[1304]
don't have a line in the sand and here's
[1306]
what happens when you don't have core
[1308]
values when you don't have
[1309]
non-negotiables you begin to just kind
[1313]
of agree with everything
[1314]
I heard Jordan Peterson say this once he
[1316]
said he and his wife have a rule and the
[1320]
rule is this that they will never agree
[1322]
to something
[1324]
if they don't agree to it isn't that
[1327]
brilliant they will never agree to
[1328]
something if they don't agree with it
[1330]
in other words if my wife was like Hey
[1332]
man uh we should go to Europe and and
[1334]
see this this castle and take that tour
[1337]
and do this and do that and I'm like man
[1339]
if I go to Europe I just want to be able
[1340]
to chill for 10 15 days I don't want to
[1343]
take all these tours and move to 10
[1345]
different hotels over 10 10 days but I
[1348]
agree to it reluctantly because I didn't
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Stand My Ground
[1353]
guess what you become the slippery slope
[1355]
where you're just this pushover
[1359]
and over time you begin to build
[1361]
resentment towards all the people that
[1363]
you agreed with
[1365]
but you secretly didn't agree with them
[1368]
and therefore you begin to resent them
[1371]
so if you have core values if you have
[1373]
non-negotiables if you have a line in
[1375]
the sand that you're willing to draw on
[1376]
certain things then guess what you now
[1379]
become the kind of man
[1381]
who is sure-footed
[1384]
and who is confident
[1386]
in his path in life now that doesn't
[1389]
mean that you can't compromise right but
[1392]
that does mean that you ought to have a
[1394]
set of core values like as a kid as a
[1397]
young man if I had core values and my
[1399]
friends were like dude let's go carjack
[1401]
dude let's go let's go and Rob Holmes
[1404]
I would have been like bro that's
[1405]
against my core values it ain't
[1407]
happening right
[1408]
one thing I've taught my son is that hey
[1411]
man these are your core values for our
[1413]
family's core values and oh by the way
[1416]
after an 11 after 11 o'clock P.M it's
[1418]
stupid time and we're not gonna hang out
[1421]
at stupid hours with stupid people doing
[1423]
stupid things because you get stupid
[1425]
outcomes right it's stupid time
[1428]
I wish somebody would have told me that
[1429]
because a lot of the [ __ ] that I did was
[1433]
after 11 pm as a young man getting in
[1435]
trouble
[1436]
so I share that with you because if you
[1437]
don't have core values you don't have a
[1440]
set of non-negotiables you just say yes
[1442]
to everybody and then you begin to
[1444]
resent them and hate them and they see
[1446]
you as like this little jellyfish who is
[1449]
just easily pliable I don't want to be
[1451]
that guy
[1452]
and thing number seven that men do to
[1454]
ruin their lives
[1456]
is that they don't
[1458]
keep
[1459]
a Brotherhood of like-minded men around
[1462]
them they don't have a Band of Brothers
[1463]
they are not part of a tribe
[1466]
the thing that men do
[1468]
that really ruins their life is that
[1470]
they live like an island you act like a
[1473]
lone wolf
[1474]
you are not meant to be a lone wolf you
[1476]
are not meant to be an island you are
[1478]
meant to find like-minded dudes who
[1480]
share your core values yet another
[1482]
reason to have core values and
[1483]
non-negotiables because if you're like
[1485]
dude these are my core values these are
[1486]
my non-negotiables this is how I roll in
[1488]
life
[1489]
I'm an extreme unreasonable impatient
[1492]
[ __ ] that wants to make a lot of
[1494]
money be fit and jacked be
[1496]
self-actualized and self-disciplined and
[1498]
do a lot of good for Humanity and I find
[1501]
other dudes like that to connect with
[1502]
that's my tribe That's My Band of
[1505]
Brothers
[1506]
that is the Brotherhood that I belong to
[1508]
like that's why we have that modern day
[1511]
night project Brotherhood all of a
[1512]
sudden the dudes don't don't feel like
[1514]
Islands anymore you're not meant to be
[1516]
an island from the beginning of man
[1518]
beginning of time we were tribal we
[1520]
hunted as a tribe we survived as a tribe
[1523]
in a community so find your Band of
[1525]
Brothers but to find your Band of
[1527]
Brothers you must put yourself out there
[1529]
and you must have a set of core values
[1531]
that you can test another group of men
[1533]
against and if they have your core
[1535]
values get in that group
[1538]
don't be an island don't be a lone wolf
[1540]
suffering in silence white knuckling
[1542]
through life and just desperately
[1546]
hoping that things will change
[1548]
like hope is not a game plan
[1551]
guys I hope you got a lot of value from
[1553]
this episode if you did please do me a
[1554]
favor and subscribe if you're on YouTube
[1556]
like and share and of course on all the
[1559]
different podcast platforms
[1561]
leave us reviews leave us comments thank
[1563]
you so much for blowing up the bedrose
[1564]
cooling show we are like brand new in
[1568]
terms of this podcast and we're just
[1570]
blowing up on YouTube on Spotify on
[1572]
iTunes across all the platforms because
[1574]
of you and I want to thank you guys I
[1576]
want to massively show gratitude and
[1577]
thank you for that for sharing this
[1580]
message for giving me your time and of
[1582]
course for going out and taking action
[1583]
on this because remember
[1585]
averages the enemy
[1587]
success is your responsibility and
[1590]
everything in your life can change for
[1591]
the better when you decide to flip the
[1593]
switch all right guys we'll see y'all
[1595]
later take care