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How Long Do You Wait to Call a Woman Who's Given You Her Number? - by Allana Pratt - YouTube
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Digital Romance TV.
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Hello wonderful friends
at Digital Romance TV.
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Allana Pratt here.
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I love the sincerity of this question.
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"Allana, how long should
you wait to call a woman
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after she gives you her number?"
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"Should you text her instead?"
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"I hate games,
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but this is the first woman
that has looked my way in years
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and I don't wanna mess it up."
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Aw, I love the sincerity
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with which you're asking this question.
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And notice that,
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underneath the sincerity too,
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is fear of messing it up, right?
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So whenever we make a
decision based on fear,
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we're pretty much gonna
fuck it up.
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(laughs)
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Okay, so, there is a way to make decisions
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from spinning fear,
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blah blah blah,
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contractive,
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give away your power,
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not come across the way she wants anyways.
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I don't want you to do that.
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I want you to take a few breaths,
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obviously it's gonna be a lot different
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in like a healing coaching
session to release this forever,
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but the idea is notice
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that you're looking for
your safety outside.
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If she does something,
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or if she likes me, then I'm enough.
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As opposed to having your
safety be on the inside.
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Not leaning forward, not
hiding, just hoo, okay?
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I'm enough.
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I'd prefer she says yes or likes me,
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but even if she says no, I'm enough.
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I'd prefer I'm in a relationship,
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but even if I'm not, I'm enough.
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I would prefer to look
good, do this right,
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but even if I fumble, I'm enough.
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I might choose to call her,
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but she would have
preferred that I texted her,
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and there's no way I could
ever have known that,
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so she might judge me, but I'm enough.
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She might be totally into
texting and I called,
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and it was just too much for her,
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and it had nothing to do with me,
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and she freaked out, but I made a,
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and there's nothing wrong with me.
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I'm enough, you see?
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I'm internally deriving
safety and security,
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and approval and appreciation,
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no matter what happens on the outside,
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with a statement of, "Because I'm enough."
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It's a willingness to stay present.
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It's a willingness to stay connected.
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It's a willingness to stay self-loving
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no matter what happens
on the outside, okay?
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A great place to learn more about this,
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GetHerToSayYes.com is
my complimentary report,
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video series, et cetera.
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So much about how to stay
grounded and present,
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so you can just be yourself,
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come what may, bring it.
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Here to have a good time, right?
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That's fun, for you.
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That's sexy, for her.
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That makes her feel safe.
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That's alive.
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That's engaging with the unknown
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with I don't know what's gonna happen,
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but it's gonna be amazing,
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because I'm present and I'm here,
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and I'm discerning, and
I can do this, right?
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Okay, so back to your specific question.
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What was your question?
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How long to call her,
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or should I text her instead?
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So you just got a woman's number.
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So let's say, okay,
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so I'm shooting this video on Sunday.
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Let's imagine you met her on Sunday.
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I would definitely text
her later that night,
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and just say, "Hey, great to meet you."
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"Why don't we hop on the
phone tomorrow night,
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because I'd love to take
you out for a coffee."
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Or something like that.
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Or, "I'd love to get to
know you better," okay?
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So you're just moving things along.
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You're not too much,
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you're not wondering,
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and like going AWOL,
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and she's like wondering
what happened to you.
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That would be how I would appreciate it.
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I wouldn't want to wait days and days.
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If we met, let's talk
on the phone this week.
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But like, text her
right away to set it up,
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and then set it up.
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And then once you talk on the phone,
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let's remember that you're not desperate.
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That you're gonna be interviewing her too.
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That you're both gonna be discovering
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if there's a connection, or shared values,
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or whatever before you even
go for a coffee, maybe,
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or a drink.
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So, "Hey, I'd just love
to get to know you."
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"How's Thursday night
for you, around eight?
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We can connect on the phone."
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Then once that goes well,
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if the phone call goes well,
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don't need to talk for hours,
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okay, 20 minutes, easy, fine.
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"Hey, I'm really enjoying
this conversation with you,
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I'd love to take you
out for a cup of coffee
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or for a glass of wine."
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"How's Saturday," blah
blah blah blah, right?
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Just keep it going.
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Not texting forever.
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Not calling forever.
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Not playing games.
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Just nuh, nuh, nuh.
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Just own it.
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And remember that her opinion of you
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has nothing to do with your worth,
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and that you have a lot to offer.
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And be curious to see if she's
a contribution to your life,
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just as much as she's
going to be curious to see
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if you're a contribution to hers.
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And just let the discovery
be okay.
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(clapping)
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And if you need some support in this,
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God, I just would love to help you
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find that centered place
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where you're unwavering and authentic,
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and grounded and present,
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and having fun being a noble bad ass.
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So if you'd like to apply
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for a complimentary strategy session,
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if maybe doing some sessions
is going to help heal
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some of the wounds of the past,
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so that you can guarantee
more success in the future.
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It says that it's been a long time
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since a woman's looked your way.
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Sounds like there could be
some stuff to heal in there.
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Let's do it now,
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when you've got some live ones.
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Huh, okay?
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And let's set yourself up to win,
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and have the best situation possible,
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now and always.
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So go to AllanaPratt.com/connect.
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It's a way that you can apply
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for a complimentary strategy session,
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if you're a 10 out of 10 ready
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to dive in and do some work,
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I'd love to see if you're a fit
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to invite you to work with me.
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It's just so fulfilling to see men
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who have been alone or lonely,
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or not having a lot of success,
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step into success.
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Sometimes more than many,
many choices in women,
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and then finding someone
that really sees them,
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really values them,
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really appreciates them,
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and there's an ease and a grace to it,
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and they're so grateful
that they did the work
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to show up, yeah.
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That's something that would be so
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wonderful to share with you,
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it'd be a privilege to provide for you.
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Alright, thank you
again for your question.
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All my love.
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