Allah Loves Forbearance and Deliberation | Episode 18 | Ramadan 2019 - YouTube

Salamualikoum welcome back to Allah Loves. So this is a very special story

that I learned very early on while studying the Companions of the Prophet

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because a lot of times when you're hearing hadiths

about rushing to do good and this idea of the Companions being highly

motivated, which they were, sometimes that could lead a person to not be very

deliberate about their actions and the things that they do. So this is a hadith

which takes place with a long incident in the backdrop where you had the tribes

that were coming to see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the delegations that were

coming to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and people were rushing to get

off their camels get off their horses jump and run to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

so they could kiss his hand so they could they could greet him and there was one

person that stayed back for some time and you've got to think well who's the

one that's getting the camels set who's the one that's keeping things in order

who's the one that's actually staying behind making sure that no one dropped

anything who's that guy right that guy was Al Ashaj Abdel Qays. Al Ashaj was an ansari,

he was a young man but he was very deliberate about the things that he did

he was very calculated so he was the one that was making sure that everything was

tied properly and so he stayed behind he made sure that his tribe had all of

their belongings with them he tied the camels properly he went and he changed

and he made himself presentable then he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

sallam and some of his tribe they kind of mocked that deliberation or they felt

like he was being slow but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to

him that "ina fika khasletain" that you have in you two qualities "yuhibuhoum

Allah" that Allah loves about you and he said what are they Oh Messenger

of Allah he said "al helm wal ana' " your forbearing and you are deliberate.

Forbearance and deliberation, now those words are tough words so let me explain

them. Forbearance is when you are particularly patient with people so he

talks about patience and holding yourself back right it's a lot easier to

be patient with natural disaster with something bad happening that's outside

of anyone's control than it is when it's someone in front of

you that is really messing with your

patience right so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the incident that we covered a

few episodes ago with Aisha radiAllahu anha and the people that shouted out to

him "al sam aleikoum" the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was showing forbearance he's holding himself

back restraining himself right and so when you have "helm" when you have

forbearance you are able to hold it in that's why Ibrahim on Islam is described

as "haleem" one of the names of Allah is an Haleem, one who is forbearing, Allah is

forbearing with us Allah tolerates our weaknesses our sometimes

wickedness and Allah does not punish us right away but instead Allah gives us a

chance to repent so "al helm" is that a person is forbearing they're calculated

they're well restrained and so their anger is only for specific contexts and

it's carried out in a way that is pleasing to Allah subhana wa ta'ala

"Al ana' " is a related quality of being calculated of being deliberate of making

sure that you do things properly. Now al ana' is the opposite of hate the

Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said "al ajalato men al shaytan" that hast is from the devil and

al ana' which is to be deliberate is from Allah. Al ana' is that a person takes

their time to make sure that everything is done right that nothing is out of

order and so just as they have a great sense of self-control they

also have a great control of their environment as well they're making sure

that they're always doing things properly, calculated, structured, not in a

way that would hinder progress but in a way that would sustain it. Not in a way

that would make them too slow but in a way that would make sure that their

speed and going ahead with good things are done in a way that would maintain a

momentum a steady momentum towards Allah (swt) towards those good

things so "helm" and "ana' " come from the same well, the same fountain

which is to be forbearing to be calm to be collected to be deliberate about what

you do and Allah subhana wa ta'ala who has that quality himself of being forbearing

loves to see it in us and loves to see that we take our time to make

sure that things are done right and that we don't rush and that

we're not hasty with the things that we do and some people might criticize that

as being slow but it's not slow just like some people might criticize a

person who doesn't react to insult or to to foulness in like manner as being

too slow or being too reserved all of those things are actually beloved to

Allah subhana wa ta'ala because they're done from a place of intentionality and we as

believers are taught to be intentional about the things that we do so we ask

Allah (swt) to put those beloved qualities in us as well and to allow

them to manifest themselves in our personality and in our work and how we

control our environment, Jazakoum Allah Khayran, see you all next time

Inshallah wa salamualikoum wa rahmatollahi wa barakto.