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The ULTIMATE Beginners Guide To Manifesting | Mel Robbins - YouTube

Channel: Mel Robbins

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do you know that there has been a 700

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percent increase in Google searches for

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manifestation and manifesting techniques

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just this year alone so if you're brand

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new to manifesting you are in the right

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place because I'm going to unpack the

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basics for you I'm going to help you

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understand this and more importantly I'm

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going to empower you to put this to use

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in your life to help you get what you

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want and if you've been trying to

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manifest for a while now and it's not

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working this is also an exceptionally

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awesome video for you to watch because

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it's probably going to reveal some of

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the mistakes you've been making and so

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let's just jump into it so here's what

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we're going to cover in this video first

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of all I'm going to give you a

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definition for manifesting that's going

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to clear a lot of stuff up next I'm

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going to talk about what it is for Real

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based on science and what it can help

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you do and what it isn't how manifesting

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is very different than dreaming hoping

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wishing and wanting okay then what we're

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going to do is we're going to talk about

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why this is a skill that you need I'm

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going to tell you a story about how some

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of the top performing athletes in the

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world at the highest level Olympic

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levels are using the science of

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manifestation to get what they want when

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it comes to performing at their top

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level I'm also going to tell you a

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deeply personal story about how my

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husband and I used manifesting over 20

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years ago to help us get this incredible

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dream house this Farmhouse that we

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always always wanted outside of Boston

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Massachusetts and by the time that we

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are done with this you're going to feel

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so excited so empowered because you're

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going to know what manifesting is you're

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going to understand why you need it and

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you are also going to be equipped to get

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started using it all right so let's

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start with the definition of manifesting

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what the heck is manifesting Mel Robbins

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well let me tell you what manifesting

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isn't okay manifesting is not thinking

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thoughts and then hoping that they come

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true thoughts become things only when

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your thoughts inspire you to take the

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actions to get those things that's where

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manifesting comes in

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manifesting is preparing your mind body

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and spirit to help you take the actions

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to get those things that's right I'm

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going to say that again

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manifesting is like training forgetting

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what you want

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manifesting is socializing your mind

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preparing your mind rehearsing your mind

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to help you take the steps before you

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take the steps so that you can get what

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you want when you use manifesting

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properly what you do is you remove the

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obstacles of self-doubt of resistance of

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being cautious of focusing on Tiny

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minutia of feeling blank and overwhelmed

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you remove all that crap and you retrain

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your mind and you retrain your nervous

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system and you retrain your spirit to

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help you get the things that you want in

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life and when you manifest properly what

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it does is it inspires you to take the

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actions that lead you to what you want

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now that sounds like a lot of like okay

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Mel what does that actually mean what it

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means is this manifesting is going to

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help you see feel and act your way

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toward the things that you want that's

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what it does it's so freaking cool now

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let me tell you the difference between

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manifesting according to science and

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wishing wanting hoping dreaming let's

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focus on sort of wishing

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there's a lot of you that are confusing

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wishing for something with manifesting

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okay they're the opposite ends of the

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spectrum and so before I kind of explain

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the two let me just give you an example

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so that we can use the example to

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compare and to contrast okay one big

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goal and dream that a lot of people have

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is Financial Freedom the ability to take

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your kids to Disney World the ability to

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buy what you want the ability to put

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enough money away so that you don't have

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to worry about money the ability to buy

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the things that you need to go on the

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trips that you want Financial Freedom is

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something that you deserve in your life

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it's something that you can do the work

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to achieve in your life and so let's

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talk about the goal of Financial Freedom

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and the difference between wishing for

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Financial Freedom and hoping and

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dreaming about it versus manifesting and

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doing the work to go get it if you can

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hear my cat outside you know that he

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sounds like he's dying what he's

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actually doing is he's really pissed off

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because we have come into this little

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room and shut the door and so he's

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walking around going where are you where

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is everybody let's take a listen for a

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minute

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so did you notice that wishing he would

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leave didn't work what you're going to

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always get when you watch Mel Robbins

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videos is you're going to get the real

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deal okay but literally the real deal

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because this is real life and these are

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tools for real people to make real

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changes and so you might as well see

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what's going on so the cat is now

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sleeping on my lap and he's very happy

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we were talking about Financial Freedom

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which is a goal that so many people have

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right and what's the difference between

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you wanting and wishing for Financial

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Freedom

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and you manifesting it and using

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manifestation and the science of it to

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help you get it the big difference

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between wishing for something and using

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manifesting to help you do the work to

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go get it is that when you wish that you

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were financially free have you ever

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noticed that the second that you wish

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for something like you know I wish I

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would win the lottery you're also

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present at the same time to the fact

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that you're lacking money right now like

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wishing that you would win the lottery

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it doesn't bring up all of this sort of

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like empowering feelings what it what it

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does is it reminds you that you're so

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broke that you need to win the lottery

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and that's very different than

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manifesting manifesting is declaring

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what you want I am committed to creating

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Finance freedom in my life

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and then once you declare what you want

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manifesting is about the actions and

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empowering yourself to go get it

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and there's a really big difference

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between focusing on you know and wishing

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for something which only reminds you

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that you're lacking it you know oh I I

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wish I would meet somebody that just

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makes you feel more alone I wish I could

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get in shape that just makes you feel

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more out of shape I wish I could win the

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lottery that just makes you feel poorer

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I wish I didn't have to work for this

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jerk that just makes you feel more stuck

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do you feel how wishing for something

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amplifies what you don't like versus

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I'm gonna manifest and work for more

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money in my life I am committed to being

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in a loving relationship and I'm going

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to manifest and make it happen I uh

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deserve to have a career that I love and

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I'm going to use manifesting to help me

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get it

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I want to be in incredible shape I want

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to do a handstand in yoga I want to heal

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my trauma and I'm going to use

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manifesting to help me achieve those

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things that's a big difference wishing

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and hoping makes you present to what you

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don't have

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manifesting makes you present and

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feeling empowered about what you want

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and your ability to go get it and that

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highlights the second big difference

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when you hope for things when you wish

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for things you are handing the power

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to somebody else or to outside forces

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you are literally giving away your power

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because hoping and wishing

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just inherently assumes that somebody

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else is somehow going to come in and

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solve the problem we all know that

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that's not happening manifesting on the

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other hand locates and amplifies the

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power inside of you to do the work to

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get those things to do the work to

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change your life and it's important that

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you locate the power inside of you

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because you're the one that's

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responsible for your dreams and you're

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also the person that's in the best

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position to make those dreams a reality

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because you have the ability to change

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the way that you think you have the

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ability to change the actions that you

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take every single day and when you

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change the actions that you take and you

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change the way that you think you change

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your entire life and manifesting is a

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tool

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that will help you train your brain and

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train your nervous system and train your

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mind body and spirit to help you achieve

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the things that you want the the thing

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that's super important for you to get is

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a major takeaway from this video is the

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thoughts alone won't achieve the things

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that you desire

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but if you manifest properly

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it will inspire you to take action

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action is what will create the results

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that you deserve and that you want in

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your life that's as simply as I can put

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I want to explain a little bit about the

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science I promised you that I was going

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to quickly tell you a little bit about

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how some of the world's most successful

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athletes are using the science of

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manifestation in order to win at the

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Olympics in order to come back after an

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injury

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you know the U.S Olympic team there was

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a big article in the New York Times

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about this they hire Sports

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psychologists

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precisely for mental training and what

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these Sports psychologists are doing

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there are five of them alone that work

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with the U.S snowboarding and ski team

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and what they do is they are doing the

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mental

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training with athletes before the

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Olympics to help them prepare to show up

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at the Olympics and absolutely crush it

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and you're going to do the same thing

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you are going to use manifestation to

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mentally prepare before and while you're

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doing the work to achieve your goals and

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dreams because when you mentally prepare

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you remove all of the obstacles like

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self-doubt and nerves and anxiety and

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imposter syndrome and fear that are

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currently stopping you from taking

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action and so how do you mentally

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prepare well let me talk to you about

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the ski team because they do this super

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cool process that is basically what you

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do when you manifest the sports

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psychologist would sit down with one of

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the gold medal winning skiers and

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snowboarders particularly after injury

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because if you think about it somebody

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that's been injured during competition

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even after they've had surgery and

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they've recovered they're going to be

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nervous about about competing again and

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you may feel the same way about going

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for what you want you may have faced a

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bunch of setbacks you may have faced a

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bunch of disappointments you may have

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faced a bunch of rejection and so you're

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nervous about putting yourself out there

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that's okay feeling nervous is normal

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but you're not going to let it stop you

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we're going to use manifestation

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to train your mind body and spirit

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to be able to do the work we're going to

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rehearse what you need to do in your

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mind and your body and your spirit so

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that when it comes time to do it you

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feel like you've actually already done

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it which removes your nerves it's so

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cool so back to the U.S ski and

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snowboarding team the sports

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psychologists would sit with the

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athletes and you know let's just say you

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know the crazy snowboarding thing where

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they go off a jump and they do 50

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million like hoops and loops and tricks

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and whatever that's like a 10 second

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jump in the air

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and so what the sports psychologist does

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is they have the snowboarder or the

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skier

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describe in detail

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not the jump

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but point a

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point B Point C Point D Point e Point F

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all the way to Z

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okay I'm getting off the chair lift and

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I've got my snowboard tucked under my

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right arm and I'm walking up to uh the

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place where everybody's getting ready I

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hear the crunch crunch crunch of the

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snow and I I feel the breeze do you

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notice I've got my eyes closed I've got

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my eyes closed because I have made

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manifesting a habit I do it every single

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morning

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and when I start to manifest

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I do something that I used to do as a

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trial lawyer and that is put someone at

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the scene

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really good trial lawyers are able to

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put a jury right at a scene

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right where it happened with such detail

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that you can smell

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the cup of coffee on the counter you can

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hear the cars passing outside you can

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see the bright orange sweater that

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somebody's wearing right in your mind

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you have the ability with your

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imagination to put yourself right at the

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scene

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and that's exactly what these Sports

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psychologists are coaching Olympic

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athletes to do

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as you're standing there and the wind is

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blowing and your hat is on and they

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they're calling your name

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now you're clipping in

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now you're feeling the excitement in

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your stomach

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now you're feeling yourself push off

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and you feel the momentum kick in and

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the gravity pull down and the speed

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increasing and you feel the liftoff and

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you literally mentally rehearse visually

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and in your body feeling it and what

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you're doing is you are preparing your

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body to be able to do it here's a cool

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fact about your brain your brain can't

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distinguish between real experiences

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that you've lived

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and the detailed experiences that you

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have imagined and felt through

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manifesting

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so we are using your vision

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we are using your ability to picture

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yourself there and feel yourself there

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as a way to prepare yourself to be there

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and as you're seeing yourself doing all

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the work I want you to feel this sense

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of Pride and excitement

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in order to really imprint the step by

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step by step-by-step training in your

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mind body and spirit all right well look

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I'm no Olympic Athlete but I am

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a gold medalist when it comes to the

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science of manifestation I used

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manifesting

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as a way to help me

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keep doing the work to find my dream

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house uh outside of Boston this is the

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story of how I use manifesting

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to do the work to find a needle in a

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haystack which was an antique Farmhouse

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outside of Boston

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so God uh 1997.

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my husband Chris and I are newlyweds we

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moved from New York City to the Boston

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area and we have moved from New York to

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the Boston area because we know that we

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want to start a family we know we don't

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want to be in New York City we know we

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want to buy a house and have a yard and

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so we rent an apartment in Cambridge

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which is you know right next door to

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Boston and for almost a year we start

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looking for a house now we were a really

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young newlywed couple we did not have a

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lot of savings and Boston it's a really

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expensive real estate market and so we

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looked at houses every single weekend

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for an entire year and we either would

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go to these open houses and we just

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hated the neighborhood or we couldn't

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afford the house and we were just

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feeling so discouraged

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and it was about this time that I

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discovered the science of manifesting

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and I luckily didn't just learn thoughts

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become things I learned these see it

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feel it and you'll believe it form of

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manifesting that you're learning right

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now and here's what I would do I would

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every single day

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I knew what I wanted more than anything

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I wanted to find an antique farmhouse

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with a big front porch I wanted it to be

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in our budget I wanted to have some land

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I wanted to get a fixer-upper I just had

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this Like This Old House kind of vision

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in my mind right

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and I would sit there and I would think

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about Chris and I going to open houses

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and I would think about uh Chris and I

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seeing house after house and I would

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think about Chris getting really

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discouraged and I would feel the

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pressure of going to all these open

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houses and us not finding anything and I

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could feel Chris getting discouraged I

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could feel myself starting to get

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discouraged and then I would feel and

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see myself turning to Chris and saying

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Chris you watch

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we are really good people and we have

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the kind of luck that something magical

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is going to happen we are going to find

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that needle in the haystack I just know

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it if we just keep going to open houses

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if we just keep putting it out there

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that we're looking for an old farmhouse

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a fixer-upper with a big porch on a nice

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piece of property we will find it what

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this kind of manifesting does where you

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see yourself pushing through the

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resignation you feel yourself believing

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you feel yourself doing the work to find

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that needle in the haystack to beat the

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odds to have something magical happens

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is that you start to believe that it's

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going to happen

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through manifesting I literally

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convinced myself that we would in fact

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find a needle in a haystack that I

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didn't even need to worry about all the

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houses that we couldn't afford that we

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were seeing I didn't even need to worry

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about the number of of places that we

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would look at that were out of our range

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I didn't even have to worry about how

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long it was going to take because I knew

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because I was aligning myself with what

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I wanted through proper manifestation

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that it would happen I wasn't worried

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about the timeline I just assumed that

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if we kept at it and we kept holding on

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for that needle in the haystack amazing

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old farmhouse that one day somehow

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magically the Stars would align we would

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be in the right place and we would be

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rewarded because we had done the work

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and we had held out hope and we had kept

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on going and why do we do those things

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because I had been training myself

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preparing myself to do all those things

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and I'll tell you what happened about a

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year into looking in one of the nicest

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towns outside of Boston Massachusetts we

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got word that there was a ransack old

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farmhouse that may be coming on the

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market so we drove out that weekend

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and we pulled up in front of the house

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and I got to tell you the grass at this

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house and the front yard was like waist

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high nobody had mowed this lawn and I

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don't know how many years it looked like

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a field for crying out loud instead of a

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front lawn

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the paint was all chipped the house was

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this like ugly blue color most of the

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windows were broken the only living

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beings inside the house were the family

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of raccoons who had taken up residence

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inside the chimney the kitchen was so

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hideous there was AstroTurf indoor

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outdoor grass as the flooring in this

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house now if I hadn't been manifesting

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if I hadn't been training my mind body

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and spirit to see feel and believe that

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my husband and I would find this needle

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in a haystack I would have turned to

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Chris the second we pulled up in front

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of this thing and said are you kidding

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me this dump first of all I won't be

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able to afford it secondly this dump

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what have we lost it's not even on the

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market some developer is going to swoop

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in here in this neighborhood and pay

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three times a week and if there is no

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way

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we are going to get this that's what

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would have happened if I hadn't been

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manifesting because the biggest obstacle

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to what you want is always your own

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self-doubt your own excuses your own

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fears and your own stories because I had

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been manifesting what it's looked like

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and felt like to align my body and

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spirit with getting what I want

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I stayed open that this could be that

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needle in the haystack we got out of the

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car we met with the owner it turns out

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the house wasn't on the market yet the

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family was figuring out what to do

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because the man who had owned it had

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just died incapacitated in a nursing

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home none of the adult kids wanted the

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house and what did they want for the

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house more than anything this

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dilapidated old farmhouse that they had

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all grown up in they wanted a young

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couple who was starting a family to

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raise their family in it well the long

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and the short of it is that

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ugly old farmhouse with the broken

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windows and the raccoons inside and the

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indoor outdoor grass Turf for carpeting

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in the kitchen was that needle in the

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haystack Chris and I bought it from the

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family before it ever came on the market

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and we spent the first two years honest

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to God indoor camping inside of it we

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didn't have a kitchen we had a Coleman

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two burner camping stove

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we did most of the renovations ourselves

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which meant bringing the knob into it

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tube wiring up to code slapping on a

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paint a coat and bringing everything up

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to a point where it would be safe and we

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have lived in this Farmhouse and raised

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our family in it for the past 24 years

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there is no way that I would have even

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gotten out of the car without having

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been manifesting

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for eight months prior to finding that

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Farmhouse with the big wrap porch on a

[1376]

great piece of property right outside of

[1378]

Boston it was seeing it feeling it in my

[1382]

mind body and spirit that made my mind

[1385]

believe that it was possible and when

[1388]

you believe that something is possible

[1390]

you will do the work and you will stay

[1393]

open to all of the amazing possibilities

[1396]

that come into your life to make it

[1399]

happen and here we are almost 25 years

[1402]

later sitting here filming in that very

[1405]

house so there you have it I promised

[1408]

you that this would be a video that

[1411]

would be perfect if you were brand new

[1413]

to manifesting or if you've been

[1415]

manifesting for a while but it hasn't

[1417]

been working I hope that now that you

[1419]

know the real definition and the real

[1422]

purpose of manifesting when you manifest

[1426]

using science and you manifest as a way

[1429]

to train and prepare your mind body and

[1431]

spirit to do the work to help you get

[1434]

what you want I hope you now feel

[1437]

empowered and inspired to stop wishing

[1439]

and hoping for the things that you want

[1442]

in life and that you use manifesting to

[1445]

prepare yourself and Inspire yourself to

[1448]

go take the action to make them a

[1450]

reality I'm going to teach you the four

[1452]

simple steps that you need to follow in

[1455]

order to manifest the right way

[1458]

according to research and science I'm so

[1461]

glad you're watching this manifesting is

[1464]

an incredible skill to develop in your

[1466]

life and to practice and build

[1468]

consistently as something that you do my

[1472]

definition of manifesting is manifesting

[1476]

when you do it following the four steps

[1478]

you're about to learn according to

[1480]

research and science what manifesting

[1482]

does is it trains your mind your body

[1486]

your spirit

[1487]

to align with what you want to achieve

[1492]

in life manifesting is a way to prepare

[1496]

or socialize your mind and your nervous

[1498]

system and your body to do the work

[1501]

that's necessary to getting what you

[1503]

want and so the steps that I'm going to

[1506]

walk you through work they're based in

[1508]

research and what they're doing is they

[1511]

remove all of the obstacles that would

[1514]

normally stop you from taking action

[1516]

because just thinking about what you

[1518]

want isn't going to get it done what

[1520]

ultimately creates results in your life

[1522]

are actions and so manifesting is a way

[1525]

to train yourself to take the actions

[1529]

that will change your life that will

[1531]

help you get what you want manifesting

[1533]

also removes self-doubt resistant

[1536]

excuses imposter syndrome all the things

[1539]

that would normally stop you from taking

[1541]

the actions the four steps that you need

[1543]

to follow really simple step number one

[1546]

is give yourself permission

[1550]

to dream with the lid off this is really

[1553]

important and the reason why this is

[1555]

important is because I guarantee you

[1557]

that right now you are not even allowing

[1561]

yourself to fully dream or think about

[1566]

or set goals that are truly aligned with

[1569]

what you deeply want in your heart that

[1572]

you aren't even able to manifest

[1574]

properly because you're not even honest

[1577]

with yourself about what you actually

[1579]

want this is a really common thing

[1581]

because you're allowing your self-doubt

[1584]

you are allowing your fears your anxiety

[1587]

your insecurity you're allowing where

[1590]

you are to dictate and limit where you

[1593]

want to go and so step one super

[1596]

important you must allow yourself

[1599]

give yourself permission to start

[1602]

dreaming with the lid off now the

[1605]

scientific reason why this is so

[1606]

important is because you have a filter

[1608]

in your brain called the reticular

[1610]

activity system I write about the RAS

[1614]

for short the reticular activity system

[1617]

extensively in the high five habit the

[1620]

RAS is a filter in your mind and you can

[1624]

do simple things that change the

[1627]

structure of that filter in fact the

[1630]

filter in your mind the res is always

[1632]

changing so one thing that you can do in

[1635]

order to teach yourself how to dream

[1638]

with the lid off is to adopt a simple

[1641]

habit every single morning I do a very

[1644]

simple thing I write down five things

[1647]

that I want that's it when I start my

[1650]

day after I get up when the alarm rings

[1652]

I make my bed I pull on my exercise

[1654]

clothes I set an intention I high five

[1656]

myself in the mirror I then go out into

[1659]

the kitchen I crack open my high five

[1662]

journal and then inside the journal

[1665]

there are prompts that walk me through

[1667]

the steps of visualizing and the first

[1670]

prompt is dream with the lid off set

[1674]

your spirit free write down five things

[1676]

every morning that you want and this is

[1679]

important because when you get what you

[1681]

want out of your head and you physically

[1684]

put them on a piece of paper research

[1686]

shows that you're 42 percent more likely

[1689]

to achieve those goals simply by writing

[1692]

them down that's pretty cool secondly

[1694]

your mind is paying attention and when

[1697]

you take deliberate action and you write

[1699]

down what you want you are signaling to

[1702]

your brain that you deserve to have

[1707]

these things you're signaling to your

[1708]

brain that you do want those things

[1710]

you're not just going to think about

[1711]

them these are things that matter to you

[1713]

and that helps train your mind to allow

[1717]

you to let the desires flow through you

[1720]

because right now you're not manifesting

[1723]

properly because you're not even

[1724]

allowing yourself to dream with the lid

[1727]

off so that's step number one you're

[1729]

going to start writing down five things

[1731]

that you want every single morning as a

[1733]

way to train your mind to let you dream

[1735]

freely so a couple things about this

[1737]

little practice of writing down five

[1739]

things that you want every morning as a

[1741]

way to train your mind to allow you to

[1742]

dream again

[1743]

first of all you can write down the same

[1746]

five things every day it's your list

[1748]

your dreams you get to do this how you

[1750]

want the second thing that you could do

[1752]

is you could just write down different

[1754]

things every day it doesn't matter

[1756]

because really what manifesting is is

[1760]

manifesting as a way to train and

[1762]

prepare your mind body and spirit to

[1764]

help you and if your mind is blocking

[1767]

you and your mind won't even allow you

[1769]

to fully

[1771]

want the things that you want like for

[1774]

example maybe you want to be a New York

[1776]

Times best-selling author but you won't

[1778]

even write that down because you don't

[1779]

think it's possible if you won't even

[1781]

write it down because your self-doubt is

[1784]

stopping you you're not dreaming with

[1786]

the lid off and so this simple exercise

[1788]

write down I want to be a New York Times

[1789]

just selling author I want a house by

[1791]

the beach I want to take my family to

[1793]

Disney World I'd love to meet the love

[1796]

of my life I'd like to climb Mount

[1797]

Kilimanjaro I want to open a wine bar

[1800]

I'd love to get in the best shape of my

[1802]

life I'd like to do a handstand this

[1803]

year in yoga I'd like my dog to start

[1806]

barking at the neighbors whatever you

[1807]

want it doesn't matter you're just

[1809]

training yourself to dream and that's

[1811]

step one allow yourself to want what you

[1815]

want step number two for manifesting

[1818]

properly according to science is you

[1822]

must visualize the steps that lead you

[1827]

to the thing that you want

[1830]

not the end goal this is a major mistake

[1833]

that people make they manifest

[1836]

improperly because all they do is focus

[1839]

on the end goal if you've ever made a

[1841]

vision board think about what you put on

[1843]

the vision board you put up just the

[1845]

beach house or the million dollars in

[1847]

the bank or you crossing the Finish Line

[1849]

are you launching that business are you

[1851]

having the body that you want or you

[1854]

would drive in the Maserati whatever it

[1856]

is the end goal is what you put up on a

[1858]

vision board that is not what you're

[1860]

going to do when you manifest if you

[1862]

start focusing on crossing the finish

[1864]

line of the marathon that is a one-way

[1867]

ticket to being unmotivated and

[1869]

completely discouraged in fact research

[1871]

shows that if all you do is focus on the

[1875]

thing that you want and you just focus

[1877]

on that vision of you and your bikini

[1879]

body or you with the love of your life

[1882]

on your arms or you at the Oscars

[1885]

winning that award or the Grammys

[1888]

what happens is because you've only

[1891]

focused on the end goal you start to

[1894]

feel really unmotivated and discouraged

[1896]

because you're nowhere near it that's

[1898]

where manifesting comes in because we're

[1900]

not going to focus on the end goal you

[1902]

got to pick something that you want in

[1905]

order to get started but manifesting

[1908]

isn't about the end it's about the

[1910]

bridge

[1911]

it's about going from where you are here

[1914]

to where you want to go

[1916]

imagine that there is a bridge

[1919]

that connects where you are right here

[1922]

with what you dream about doing

[1925]

now that dream could be to be a Grammy

[1928]

award-winning

[1929]

singer-songwriter that dream might be to

[1932]

have a family of your own that dream

[1934]

might be to have a beach house or a ski

[1937]

house or to take a trip to Fiji that

[1940]

dream can be whatever the hell you want

[1942]

it to be but when it comes to

[1944]

manifesting once you've given yourself

[1947]

permission to dream with the lid off and

[1950]

really want what you want to feel the

[1952]

pull of that thing now we gotta talk

[1955]

about the path that connects where you

[1958]

are with where you want to go and this

[1960]

is all about visualizing the Little

[1963]

Steps there's a lot of research that

[1965]

proves why visualizing the steps is the

[1969]

most important thing that you could do

[1972]

there was a study done at UCLA for

[1974]

example where they were researching

[1977]

manifestation and the power of

[1979]

visualization and they broke students

[1982]

into two groups and they had group a

[1985]

we're going to call these the vision

[1987]

board group they had group a closed

[1990]

their eyes visualize in their mind and

[1992]

feel in their body

[1994]

themselves taking the test and then

[1998]

walking up to a board where the tests

[2002]

scores were posted and finding their

[2006]

name and seeing an A plus that's what

[2009]

group a the vision board group we're

[2012]

told to do to visualize themselves

[2016]

achieving what they wanted

[2018]

Group B

[2020]

we're going to call these the hard

[2022]

workers these students were coached in

[2025]

this research project to close their

[2027]

eyes and to visualize going back to

[2030]

their dorm room sitting down at the desk

[2033]

and studying and staying up late and

[2036]

putting in the work studying and

[2039]

preparing for the tests

[2041]

now let me ask you a question

[2043]

which group do you think did better on

[2046]

the actual test

[2048]

was it group a the vision board group

[2051]

who were taught to visualize and picture

[2054]

themselves walking up to a board and

[2056]

seeing the a plus

[2057]

or was it Group B

[2060]

the hard work group the group that was

[2062]

taught to close their eyes and visualize

[2064]

and seeing themselves doing the work to

[2067]

study for the test

[2068]

well if you answered group a you're

[2070]

wrong

[2071]

if you answered Group B you got the

[2074]

correct answer the reason why Group B

[2078]

the students who visualize studying for

[2080]

the tests got better test scores is

[2082]

because when you visualize yourself

[2084]

doing the work visualizing it leads you

[2088]

to doing the work and it's only through

[2091]

actions that you will get the result

[2093]

that you want preparing your mind and

[2096]

visualizing yourself doing it lowers

[2099]

your resistance and leads to you taking

[2101]

the action that's why manifesting works

[2104]

you know the same is true in sports

[2105]

there's all kinds of research in sports

[2108]

psychology in fact our Olympic athletes

[2111]

for the U.S Olympic team they hire

[2114]

Sports psychologists who train our top

[2117]

Olympic athletes particularly after

[2119]

they've been injured in visualizing

[2123]

themselves competing when you coach an

[2126]

athlete to mentally rehearse every

[2129]

single detail about going through the

[2132]

competition you are training the mind

[2134]

body and spirit to show up and dominate

[2137]

this is is particularly true for

[2140]

athletes after they've been injured and

[2142]

they're stepping back into competition

[2143]

if you've been injured in competition

[2146]

you're naturally going to feel anxious

[2147]

you're naturally going to be nervous

[2149]

your brain and nervous system circuitry

[2152]

is now programmed with the intensity

[2155]

from that injury the memory from the

[2157]

injury so of course it's natural to

[2160]

bring that in to your pre-competition

[2163]

feelings about it right so manifestation

[2167]

properly remember what it is manifesting

[2169]

is preparing your mind body and spirit

[2171]

to do the work it's aligning your mind

[2174]

body and spirit with what you want it

[2177]

removes the obstacles that would

[2179]

normally stop you which then prepares

[2182]

and motivates you to take the actions to

[2185]

succeed so in the case of athletes who

[2187]

visualize themselves and see themselves

[2190]

doing all the steps over and over

[2192]

they're removing the nerves they're

[2194]

removing all the programming related to

[2196]

the injury they are prepared sharing

[2198]

their mind body and spirit to go in and

[2200]

freaking Dominate and so are you because

[2203]

that's step two you gotta see it

[2206]

the third step is you're gonna feel in

[2209]

your body what it feels like to do the

[2212]

work so let's go back to the research

[2215]

project at UCLA not only do I want you

[2218]

to close your eyes and picture yourself

[2221]

going back to the dorm room notice I'm

[2223]

closing my eyes it's because manifesting

[2227]

is a habit for me and when I manifest I

[2230]

get in it man I close my eyes I go into

[2233]

my mind I am literally in my imagination

[2237]

there and I not only can see myself

[2240]

doing the work I can feel it you can

[2243]

feel what it's like to walk into that

[2245]

dorm you can feel what it's like to sit

[2247]

down you can feel the heavy backpack hit

[2250]

the table you can feel yourself crack

[2253]

open that book you can feel yourself

[2255]

sitting at that desk in the desk light

[2257]

and you can also even feel what it's

[2259]

like can't you as the Sun starts to set

[2262]

and it gets darker outside and the light

[2265]

and your desk search to get brighter and

[2267]

take things over you can just put

[2269]

yourself right there and the feeling is

[2272]

super important because again

[2274]

manifesting is Mind Body Spirit we got

[2277]

to get your nervous system involved

[2278]

we've got to make you feel like you're

[2281]

at the scene one of the reasons why

[2283]

feeling it is so important is because it

[2287]

magnifies the imagery in your mind

[2290]

and when your mind rehearses something

[2293]

here's what's cool about your brain your

[2296]

brain doesn't know the difference

[2297]

between you studying for that test

[2302]

are you doing the work to

[2306]

start that business or get healthy or

[2310]

put yourself back out there or heal your

[2312]

trauma or save the money to get that

[2316]

house that you want or whatever it is

[2317]

that you're visualizing your brain

[2319]

doesn't know the difference between you

[2321]

visualizing those things

[2324]

and you actually doing them in your mind

[2326]

it's the same so it's almost like a

[2329]

training run for a marathon you are

[2332]

building a muscle that helps you win

[2334]

when you take the actions it's so cool

[2336]

and so you not only want to feel what

[2340]

it's like to study for that test put

[2343]

yourself at the scene you also want to

[2346]

feel a sense of Pride that you're doing

[2348]

the work and the pride piece is really

[2351]

important because the pride piece acts

[2354]

almost like a booster it amplifies the

[2358]

memory imprint when you like bring this

[2361]

WOW there I am I'm doing the work I'm

[2363]

proud of myself I'm staying in I'm

[2365]

putting in the extra work somebody said

[2367]

no and I kept on going I didn't stop

[2370]

when the first Venture Capital firm said

[2372]

they wouldn't invest there I am

[2373]

investing again when you feel this sense

[2375]

of pride in yourself it supersizes the

[2378]

imprint and the rehearsing and so it's a

[2381]

super important part of the feeling not

[2383]

only feel the steps feel the pride that

[2385]

you're doing it this is so important

[2387]

that I want to give you yet another

[2389]

example let's say that your bucket list

[2392]

something on your bucket list is to run

[2394]

a marathon for me it was on my bucket

[2398]

list when I was a young mom to run the

[2400]

New York City marathon now what's

[2403]

interesting is I applied I got a number

[2407]

and when I won this number out of a

[2409]

lottery system with the New York City

[2410]

marathon I was a brand new mom I was

[2413]

totally out of shape I was not at all in

[2416]

any kind of of a place to run the New

[2419]

York City marathon now here's the thing

[2421]

I used visualization to help me

[2425]

lower my fear and my excuses because

[2430]

when I got the number I did not have a

[2432]

lot of time if I had been a person who

[2435]

was not visualizing I probably would

[2437]

have said uh I don't have enough time to

[2439]

train I'm not ready I can't do this all

[2441]

the excuses would have come in but

[2443]

instead I used visualization now how do

[2446]

you use visualization for say a marathon

[2449]

you do not want to visualize crossing

[2451]

the finish line that is how you

[2453]

visualize incorrectly

[2455]

luckily I knew how to visualize at this

[2459]

moment in my life you need to visualize

[2462]

yourself going from zero

[2466]

to preparing to run that race so what

[2468]

does that mean that means you need to

[2471]

visualize oh there I am it's five

[2474]

o'clock in the morning

[2475]

oh I don't feel like getting up but I'm

[2477]

getting up and I'm putting on my

[2478]

sneakers and it's dark out and I don't

[2480]

feel like going for a run but there I am

[2481]

going out the door alone in the cold wow

[2485]

I am going for I'm I'm pretty proud of

[2487]

myself because I'm training oh here's

[2489]

another thing you could visualize I'm on

[2491]

a training run it's Mile seven and it

[2493]

starts to rain

[2495]

and I keep going

[2496]

wow I'm wet and I'm still running I'm

[2500]

proud of myself because I'm out there

[2502]

training it's mile 11 and my earbuds

[2506]

just lost battery

[2508]

I don't have any more music

[2509]

I got five more miles to go I'm out here

[2511]

for almost another hour and I continue

[2513]

going and I continue going and I see

[2516]

myself completing that 16 mile training

[2519]

run and I allow myself to not only feel

[2521]

what it feels like to push through that

[2524]

moment when those earbuds run out of

[2526]

battery

[2527]

but I also feel proud of myself for

[2530]

pushing through that's how you prepare

[2533]

yourself

[2534]

for the thing that you need to do

[2537]

because it removes the obstacles that

[2540]

would stop you from pushing through at

[2543]

Mile 11 when your earbuds run out

[2545]

because you've already rehearsed the

[2547]

moment in your mind and then finally

[2549]

step four and this is where a lot of

[2551]

people not naming names

[2554]

but this one is like really important

[2556]

you need to do the work okay you got to

[2559]

do the work because it's only through

[2561]

your actions that you will accomplish

[2563]

what you want let's say uh that you've

[2566]

always wanted to climb a particular

[2568]

Mountain okay there's a mountain called

[2569]

Haystack it's not even that tall so I

[2571]

should probably pick a bigger one but

[2573]

let's just call it Haystack Mountain

[2574]

you've always wanted to climb Haystack

[2575]

Mountain you pull up to Haystack

[2577]

Mountain

[2578]

and you get out of the car you park at

[2581]

the you know National Forest parking lot

[2583]

and you make the mistake of looking up

[2586]

at the mountain which is the end goal

[2588]

right

[2590]

and you notice it's up in the clouds

[2592]

and then you start to think oh my God

[2594]

that's a really far way away you know I

[2597]

don't really know how I feel about doing

[2599]

this anymore because that looks like

[2600]

it's going to take a really long time

[2602]

and then all of a sudden it starts to

[2604]

rain and you go I don't think I want to

[2606]

do this because I don't think I feel

[2607]

like doing this and next thing you know

[2609]

you are back in the car driving back

[2612]

down the road to that little diner that

[2614]

you saw and instead of climbing the

[2616]

mountain that you've always dreamed of

[2618]

climbing you've now come up with an

[2620]

excuse

[2622]

and you have abandoned ship you now have

[2626]

literally become your own obstacle you

[2628]

talked yourself out of it you started to

[2630]

doubt yourself you told yourself you

[2631]

weren't ready and that you didn't feel

[2633]

like it you pull the rip cord you're out

[2635]

of there in order to have what you want

[2637]

in life

[2638]

you must stop staring at the top of that

[2641]

mountain you must stop creating excuses

[2644]

for why you can't or don't feel like it

[2647]

and you must put your head down and look

[2650]

at the first step in front of you and

[2652]

then you must take the action and start

[2654]

walking toward what you want and it'll

[2656]

be a hell of a lot easier for you to do

[2658]

that if you have also been putting in

[2661]

the time every day consistently to not

[2665]

only see yourself walking up that trail

[2668]

step by step but that you have felt

[2671]

yourself pushing through the resistance

[2674]

the fear the obstacles the excuses that

[2678]

are stopping you now and feel proud in

[2682]

every fiber of your being as you push

[2685]

through those obstacles and see yourself

[2687]

and feel yourself doing the work that's

[2689]

how you manifest properly and if you do

[2693]

that before you pull into the National

[2696]

Park parking lot if you look up but that

[2699]

mountain and you see clouds and it

[2701]

starts raining it won't matter

[2703]

because you've already rehearsed this

[2705]

moment and your mind body and spirit and

[2708]

you my friend will start walking up that

[2710]

trail

[2711]

and you're going to be proud that's how

[2714]

you use manifesting to get what you want

[2717]

that's how you leverage all the science

[2719]

and research to train and prepare your

[2721]

mind body and spirit to help you get

[2724]

what you want and that's how you hack

[2727]

the motivation and inspiration that you

[2729]

need to take the actions that get you

[2732]

everything that you want and deserve in

[2734]

life I'm about to explain to you the

[2736]

seven most common mistakes that people

[2739]

make when they first start manifesting

[2741]

or hell they make these mistakes when

[2743]

they've been manifesting for years and

[2745]

these seven mistakes explain why the

[2747]

manifesting is not working so you're

[2749]

going to save yourself a lot of

[2751]

heartache and a lot of time by knowing

[2754]

these mistakes and avoiding them like

[2755]

the plague before I tell you the seven

[2757]

mistakes let me just remind you of what

[2760]

manifesting is if you're brand new to

[2763]

manifesting and you have not seen the

[2766]

video that I did that is basically what

[2768]

the hell is manifesting it's explaining

[2770]

it for beginners you might want to check

[2773]

that out it's also on our YouTube

[2775]

channel here but so my definition of

[2778]

manifesting is based on research and

[2779]

science manifesting is preparing your

[2784]

mind body and spirit to help you get

[2786]

what you want basically what you're

[2789]

doing is you are using manifesting to

[2793]

remove the obstacles that stand in the

[2795]

way of you doing the work to get what

[2796]

you want manifesting done right removes

[2799]

self-doubt it removes fear it removes

[2802]

the excuses and the stories that would

[2804]

normally stop you because when you do

[2806]

manifesting properly you literally make

[2810]

your mind body and spirit believe that

[2812]

it's a foregone conclusion and that

[2814]

makes you motivated inspired to take the

[2818]

actions that will get you what you want

[2820]

so now that you are grounded in the real

[2823]

definition of manifesting let's flag the

[2827]

seven major mistakes that people make so

[2829]

you can avoid them mistake number one

[2831]

when it comes to manifesting is you're

[2834]

not doing it daily the lack of

[2837]

consistency is what's killing your

[2840]

ability to use manifesting to achieve

[2842]

your goals and dreams so what do I mean

[2845]

by that well manifesting is a skill I

[2847]

want you to think of manifesting as a

[2850]

muscle it's a muscle that you build

[2852]

through consistency and you know if you

[2856]

think about it as a skill or a muscle or

[2858]

a new habit obviously you gotta

[2861]

incorporate it into your day-to-day life

[2863]

it's just like anything else a one-off

[2865]

change does not make a lasting change if

[2868]

you wanted to get healthier eating one

[2870]

salad is not going to make you healthier

[2872]

exercising once not going to make you

[2875]

healthier manifesting once not going to

[2878]

actually help you get what you want you

[2881]

must incorporate manifesting into your

[2884]

day-to-day life the more consistently

[2886]

you do it the more manifesting becomes a

[2889]

habit it becomes a way of thinking it

[2892]

becomes a way of acting and it becomes a

[2895]

skill that you can rely on to help you

[2898]

get absolutely anything now what's the

[2900]

easiest way to manifest consistently and

[2903]

make it part of your day-to-day life I'm

[2906]

glad you asked the best way to do it is

[2908]

make it part of your morning routine

[2909]

every single morning right after I get

[2913]

up make my bed throw on my exercise

[2915]

clothes set an intention high five the

[2917]

mirror I do something really interesting

[2919]

I call it dreaming in the morning I

[2921]

write down five things that I want and

[2924]

the reason why I write down five things

[2925]

that I want is because it is a way to

[2928]

train my mind to focus on the things

[2932]

that I desire and dream about to aim my

[2935]

mind at the things that I want in my

[2937]

life then what I do is I use manifesting

[2942]

properly to see myself taking the

[2945]

actions to get one of the things to feel

[2949]

myself taking the actions to get one of

[2951]

those things and notice I'm closing my

[2952]

eyes and that's because manifesting is a

[2955]

habit in my life I close my eyes to

[2958]

really feel myself taking the actions

[2961]

and when you manifest over and over and

[2963]

over again

[2965]

your mind in visualizing and feeling

[2968]

yourself taking those actions begins to

[2970]

believe that it's happening

[2972]

and that will make you confident

[2976]

optimistic it'll inspire you to take

[2978]

action it will remove obstacles it'll

[2981]

make it easier for you to do the work

[2983]

now that's how you do it that's how I've

[2986]

made it part of my day-to-day life I

[2988]

write down five things I then manifest

[2991]

on at least one of those things and then

[2993]

here's the most important part I then

[2995]

take an action that's inspired by the

[2998]

manifesting now to help you incorporate

[3001]

this into your day-to-day life I got

[3003]

something to give you and don't worry

[3004]

you don't need to buy anything I have

[3007]

written and created the high five

[3009]

journal it goes with my best-selling

[3011]

book the high five habit it's not only

[3014]

gorgeous and you're gonna love it but

[3018]

the prompts in the journal it's a daily

[3021]

journaling practice that you use

[3023]

write down five things that you want big

[3026]

or small today or in your lifetime now

[3028]

describe the small action you can take

[3030]

to inch yourself forward now close your

[3033]

eyes visualize taking these small

[3035]

actions feel deeply what it feels like

[3036]

to do these things as you move closer to

[3039]

what you desire this is training your

[3042]

mind body and spirit to help you take

[3044]

these actions this is a journal based on

[3047]

research and science that helps you make

[3050]

manifesting a skill that you practice

[3053]

every day you want to get consistent

[3056]

start using the high five journal now

[3059]

you can grab a copy of one of these

[3061]

things if you want it but I still got

[3063]

you covered because I know there are

[3064]

parts of the world where you can't buy

[3066]

this yet I also know that you might not

[3068]

have the money to be able to buy it

[3070]

that's cool if you go to

[3071]

highfivejournal.com you can download

[3073]

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[3075]

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[3078]

you can utilize the free templates at

[3081]

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[3083]

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[3086]

started with making manifesting

[3089]

consistent which will help build

[3091]

manifesting as a muscle and a skill that

[3094]

you rely on every single day of your

[3096]

life to help you get what you want cool

[3097]

right good now let's move on to mistake

[3102]

number two now mistake number two is a

[3105]

major mistake that people make and that

[3107]

is that you frame

[3110]

manifesting based on what you don't want

[3114]

now this is subtle but it's really

[3116]

important that you avoid this mistake

[3118]

so this is the kind of mistake that you

[3121]

make when you're really frustrated

[3123]

and you start to go I just don't want to

[3125]

be alone anymore I just don't want to

[3127]

date losers anymore I just don't want to

[3129]

be struggling anymore I just don't want

[3132]

life to be so hard anymore I just don't

[3134]

want to be single anymore I just don't

[3137]

want to be poor anymore I just don't

[3139]

want to have anxiety and feel so bad

[3141]

anymore do you see how framing all your

[3144]

dreams and goals around uh what you

[3147]

don't want might be a problem

[3149]

I mean when I say I don't want to feel

[3151]

anxious anymore how the hell am I going

[3154]

to visualize not being anxious

[3156]

that's why this is a major mistake you

[3159]

want to always frame what you want and

[3162]

what you're going to use manifesting to

[3165]

help you take the actions to go get it

[3167]

you always want to frame it in the

[3169]

positive frame it around the thing that

[3171]

you want so in the case of anxiety don't

[3174]

talk about not feeling anxious

[3177]

frame what you want

[3179]

I can't wait to have a calm

[3182]

quiet confident State of Mind

[3186]

that feels different doesn't it

[3189]

I can't wait to be in a loving

[3193]

supportive

[3195]

caring Mutual positive relationship

[3200]

with a adult

[3202]

somebody that acts like an adult and

[3205]

treats me the way I deserve to be

[3206]

treated

[3207]

feels very different than I just don't

[3210]

want to date losers anymore

[3212]

you want to always frame

[3215]

the things that you're trying to

[3217]

manifest and the actions that you need

[3219]

to take

[3220]

as leading you towards something rather

[3223]

than away from something

[3225]

that way we stop thinking and aligning

[3229]

energy around the negative crap that's

[3231]

not working and we align your mind body

[3234]

and spirit around what it feels like to

[3236]

have the positive things that you want

[3238]

that's going to make it easier for you

[3240]

to take the actions that will make them

[3242]

happen now mistake number three

[3245]

super easy to make

[3247]

you get really impatient

[3249]

you start off strong right this is true

[3253]

with all changes you start off strong

[3255]

you manifest every morning for three or

[3257]

four days and then boom

[3259]

you don't do it for five or six weeks

[3261]

you start throwing your hands that's it

[3263]

it's never gonna happen so you're not

[3265]

only not consistent but you start to get

[3269]

impatient and because you're impatient

[3270]

you're not consistent

[3272]

I need you to understand something

[3274]

for manifesting to work properly based

[3278]

on Research there is no timeline

[3281]

involved

[3282]

did you hear me

[3284]

for manifesting to work properly based

[3288]

on the research there is no timeline

[3290]

involved

[3291]

you must give up the when

[3294]

and you must focus on seeing and feeling

[3299]

yourself taking the steps that make the

[3303]

thing that you want happen because

[3305]

manifesting is not magically making

[3308]

something appear

[3310]

manifesting is preparing your mind body

[3313]

and spirit to do the work to make

[3316]

something happen it's aligning your

[3318]

thoughts your actions and how you feel

[3321]

in your body with the thing that you

[3324]

want and the reason why manifesting is

[3326]

important is because when you prepare

[3328]

yourself to do the work and to start to

[3331]

see and feel it you will believe that

[3334]

it's a foregone conclusion you will

[3336]

believe that at some point it will

[3339]

happen and you will believe that you can

[3343]

make it happen and that belief is why

[3347]

you feel inspired and encouraged to take

[3350]

action you see when you suspend the

[3352]

timeline and you get rid of deadline

[3354]

lines there is no room for being

[3357]

impatient because you in your heart and

[3360]

your soul and in your mind know that at

[3362]

some point if you just keep on

[3365]

manifesting and you keep on seeing

[3368]

yourself and feeling yourself doing the

[3371]

steps that you need in order to make

[3373]

this a reality eventually it'll happen

[3376]

so if you feel impatient you're doing it

[3379]

wrong

[3380]

because you're not supposed to attach a

[3383]

timeline to it you're supposed to wake

[3385]

up every morning and write down five

[3387]

things that you want and let yourself

[3389]

see and feel yourself doing the work and

[3393]

that will inspire you to take the

[3396]

actions that lead you there and if you

[3398]

do that every day trust me you want to

[3400]

be thinking about the timeline because

[3402]

you know in your heart and soul

[3404]

eventually this is going to turn out now

[3406]

mistake number four

[3408]

and this is probably the biggest mistake

[3412]

that everybody makes and if you've been

[3415]

manifesting for a long time and

[3417]

nothing's turning out this is probably

[3418]

the mistake that you're making if you're

[3421]

brand new to manifesting this is the

[3423]

mistake every party that's new makes

[3426]

unless somebody tells them not to do

[3428]

this

[3429]

the biggest mistake with manifesting is

[3432]

that you're only looking at the end goal

[3435]

that's the biggest mistake everybody

[3437]

makes

[3438]

uh you know we've all been sold this

[3440]

bill of goods not only that if you think

[3442]

good things somehow it's going to happen

[3444]

that's only true that you can think good

[3447]

things and have good things happen if

[3449]

you do the work to make those good

[3452]

things happen the thinking's just the

[3453]

first part you got to actually take the

[3456]

actions that are inspired by the

[3457]

thinking and the second thing that

[3460]

people do in terms of being sold a bill

[3462]

of goods is that you kind of have been

[3465]

led to believe that if you create a

[3466]

vision board and you plaster up on the

[3468]

vision board images of beach houses and

[3471]

Lamborghinis and nfts and millions of

[3475]

dollars in the bank and the world's

[3477]

skinniest body and all the things that

[3479]

you would love to have magically appear

[3481]

in your life that simply creating the

[3484]

vision is enough

[3487]

the reason why that's a mistake is

[3489]

because research shows that simply

[3492]

envisioning the end goal without

[3494]

actually imagining all the steps that

[3497]

lead you there and without training your

[3500]

body to feel what it's going to feel

[3502]

like to do the hard work

[3504]

simply Imagining the end goal isn't

[3507]

motivating at all

[3508]

it's pretty inspiring for about a day

[3511]

but then what happens is that you start

[3514]

to stare at the beach house and the

[3516]

million dollars in the bank and you will

[3518]

feel discouraged

[3520]

because you'll realize holy cow

[3523]

from where I sit

[3525]

there's an impossible

[3528]

gap between my studio apartment or

[3531]

living in my parents basement and the

[3533]

beach house that I want there's an

[3535]

impossible gap between the fact that my

[3538]

divorce basically left me bankrupt and

[3541]

now I'm staring at a vision board with a

[3543]

million dollars in the bank

[3545]

holy cow I've got 150 pounds to lose and

[3549]

I'm gonna stare at my photo from when I

[3552]

was my you know best weight when I was a

[3555]

high school division one athlete no

[3559]

staring at the end goal is not only a

[3563]

mistake it's profoundly discouraging

[3566]

it's the reason why so many people fail

[3569]

to reach their goals because they only

[3571]

set their goals and they never do the

[3573]

part that's the most important and

[3575]

that's where manifesting comes in

[3577]

manifesting helps you do the work

[3580]

manifesting done properly is preparing

[3584]

you to do all the things between where

[3587]

you are and where you want to get to so

[3589]

I'll give you an example

[3591]

let's say that up on your vision board

[3594]

okay up on your vision board is the fact

[3598]

that you want to launch your own

[3600]

business right now you work for somebody

[3602]

else you can't stand what you do you

[3604]

have panic attacks when you wake up

[3606]

because you know that you're headed in

[3607]

the wrong direction you've always

[3609]

dreamed of opening a bakery and so you

[3612]

slap up a vision board and you've got

[3614]

this big visual up on your wall that you

[3616]

stare at every morning of this beautiful

[3618]

bakery that you've always dreamed of

[3620]

higher of starting here's the problem

[3622]

you have no money you have no savings

[3625]

you've never started a business before

[3627]

how the hell are you going to get this

[3629]

done

[3630]

staring at the vision board gives you

[3632]

panic attacks here's how manifesting is

[3635]

going to help

[3636]

manifesting is where instead of staring

[3639]

at the photos of the bakery

[3641]

you see

[3644]

feel and eventually start to believe

[3649]

that you can do the work to make it a

[3651]

reality

[3652]

and so what you're going to manifest is

[3655]

you're going to manifest all the steps

[3657]

from point A which is starting at zero

[3660]

all the way to point Z

[3662]

which is opening the doors

[3665]

you're gonna see yourself and notice I'm

[3668]

closing my eyes this is because

[3669]

manifesting is a habit manifesting

[3672]

happens here in your mind and in your

[3674]

heart and your body I want you to see

[3676]

yourself in instead of going out tonight

[3678]

with your friends see yourself staying

[3680]

in and watching videos videos on YouTube

[3684]

of other people that have opened

[3686]

bakeries

[3687]

see yourself going to the library and

[3689]

getting a book

[3691]

that tells the story of somebody who did

[3693]

it see yourself taking webinars and

[3696]

tutorials about how to raise the money

[3698]

to do something like this see yourself

[3700]

studying Kickstarter campaigns of other

[3703]

people who have launched a bakery and

[3706]

raised money through Kickstarter

[3708]

campaigns see yourself talking to people

[3710]

who have done this see yourself talking

[3712]

to friends and family see yourself

[3714]

taking a class in it see yourself

[3717]

staying in uh next weekend and working

[3721]

on this see yourself getting a part-time

[3724]

job in a bakery and learning behind the

[3727]

scenes because you've always dreamed of

[3728]

doing this but you've never worked in

[3730]

one

[3731]

and One Vision at a time as you feel

[3736]

yourself being tired as you feel the

[3738]

late nights as you feel yourself doing

[3741]

the work with no timeline you'll start

[3744]

to believe

[3746]

that you're gonna do it and that will

[3748]

keep you inspired to take those little

[3751]

actions to do it and that way when you

[3753]

come in after a long day and you've

[3757]

spent the day watching a webinar or

[3759]

watching a YouTube video or you had a

[3762]

conversation with somebody that gave you

[3764]

some advice when you walk into your room

[3766]

and you see that beautiful vision board

[3769]

you know what's going to happen your

[3771]

mind and your body and spirit will

[3774]

literally start to buzz because what

[3777]

you've been rehearsing in your mind body

[3779]

and spirit through visualization aligns

[3782]

with it that's how you do it simply

[3786]

envisioning the end game that's a

[3789]

one-way ticket to being discouraged

[3791]

unmotivated and stuck

[3793]

you start to use manifesting properly

[3796]

you start to visualize every single step

[3799]

of the way

[3800]

and you will be training for it and

[3803]

doing the work to make it happen and

[3805]

that is motivating mistake number five

[3807]

is thinking you have to have all the

[3808]

answers and that'll get you really stuck

[3810]

that what you really want to manifest

[3813]

into your life is an incredible

[3814]

relationship right but you don't even

[3816]

know where to begin because your dating

[3819]

history looks like a train wreck here's

[3822]

The Simple Solution just become a

[3824]

student become a student of whatever it

[3826]

is that you want what does a student do

[3828]

a student learns a student studies a

[3830]

student researches

[3832]

researching studying and learning about

[3834]

what you want is a simple way to find

[3839]

all of the things that you can start

[3841]

manifesting seriously anything that a

[3844]

student would be doing taking a class

[3846]

researching talking about a subject

[3848]

interviewing people about a subject

[3850]

watching videos about a subject all of

[3854]

those things that a student does are

[3856]

things that I want you to visualize see

[3859]

yourself and feel yourself doing that's

[3862]

a simple hack to figuring out the path

[3865]

between where you are and where you want

[3867]

to go another thing that a student does

[3870]

is a student studies people who have

[3872]

already done it and then you reverse

[3874]

engineer the path and you see yourself

[3877]

doing the things that somebody else did

[3879]

to get what you want now here's what's

[3881]

super cool

[3883]

remember manifesting based on science

[3886]

means training your mind body and spirit

[3889]

to do the work that gets you what you

[3892]

want your path will not be the same as

[3895]

somebody else's that's okay you can

[3898]

still see yourself walking down somebody

[3901]

else's path you can still feel what it

[3904]

feels like to do that hard work because

[3906]

manifesting works because it's going to

[3909]

remove the obstacles that you create

[3911]

your excuses your self-doubt all of the

[3915]

stories you tell yourself your fear your

[3917]

imposter syndrome you're rehearsing the

[3919]

steps in your mind because remember your

[3923]

brain doesn't know the difference

[3924]

between you actually taking the steps or

[3928]

you just visualizing yourself taking the

[3930]

steps when you visualize yourself taking

[3933]

the steps you are training your mind

[3936]

body and spirit to not resist taking

[3938]

those actions that's why this is going

[3941]

to work for you even though you know

[3943]

let's say you love The Rock's career

[3945]

you're not going to have the same career

[3946]

as The Rock but you can certainly

[3948]

visualize all the things that he did in

[3951]

order to train yourself to do do the

[3953]

work that will get you what you want

[3956]

now mistake number six is going to be

[3958]

obvious based on mistake number four

[3960]

number five

[3961]

you're not taking any actions

[3963]

look

[3964]

uh you can't just

[3967]

feel it in your body you can't just see

[3970]

it in your mind the whole reason why

[3972]

you're rehearsing this and training your

[3974]

body to do the steps is so you freaking

[3977]

take the steps okay at some point you

[3980]

gotta leave your brain and your body and

[3982]

you've got to take action in the world

[3984]

you gotta let the manifesting the

[3987]

training and preparing that you're doing

[3988]

by seeing it and feeling it and teaching

[3992]

you to believe that it's possible you

[3994]

gotta let that [ __ ] inspire you to take

[3996]

action now I want to give you a tool

[3998]

remember in the beginning I showed you

[4001]

the high five Daily Journal I also told

[4004]

you you can get free templates at

[4006]

high5journal.com now this thing's

[4010]

gorgeous I love it the templates I don't

[4011]

think are colors so that's one thing but

[4013]

they are free

[4014]

but if you pick up a copy of this or you

[4017]

use the templates This Journal

[4020]

is prompting you every day to take

[4021]

action this journal is going to prompt

[4025]

you to write down five things that you

[4027]

want this is going to get you to start

[4030]

giving yourself permission to have what

[4032]

you want in your life then this journal

[4034]

is going to prompt you to think like a

[4038]

student what are some steps that you can

[4041]

take in order to move toward what you

[4044]

want it's going to get you thinking

[4046]

about things to do so that you are

[4049]

taking action then it's going to prompt

[4052]

you to properly manifest doing those

[4057]

things and then it's going to tell you

[4059]

to do it and so if you really want to

[4062]

kick in the pants or if you want to have

[4065]

your hand held or you want a tool

[4067]

because you are committed to making

[4070]

manifesting a skill that is part of your

[4073]

day-to-day life this journal the high

[4075]

five

[4076]

journal is the only Journal based in

[4080]

science that will train you and your

[4082]

mind body and spirit to make manifesting

[4085]

part of your morning routine any skill

[4087]

that you master and put to use in your

[4091]

life every single day and again you can

[4093]

get those templates at high five

[4095]

journal.com and you can get a copy of

[4097]

this anywhere online just Google it the

[4101]

final mistake is also a really big one

[4103]

and that mistake is you're not

[4106]

celebrating the small wins

[4108]

so as you make manifesting a skill as

[4112]

you get consistent about it as you start

[4116]

to be a student as you take inspired

[4119]

action as you realize that you do feel

[4122]

like this is gonna happen you don't even

[4124]

have a timeline on it because you know

[4125]

it's going to happen

[4127]

you're not as you're doing these things

[4130]

recognizing all the small wins that you

[4132]

have every day when you manifest and

[4138]

then you take the action that the

[4140]

manifesting has inspired that's a win

[4142]

when you see doors opening up because

[4146]

you've been moving toward what you want

[4149]

that's a win

[4150]

when you randomly meet somebody that

[4153]

introduces you to somebody that helps

[4156]

you get one step closer that's a win

[4159]

and you need to celebrate that stuff

[4162]

these are signs these are not

[4164]

coincidences these are signs that you're

[4167]

on the right path a lot of people

[4169]

believe in Angel signs you know like

[4171]

seeing the number 11 or 22 or the number

[4174]

nine or for me the number five

[4177]

Angel signs are cool because for me

[4179]

angel signs are a mile marker that give

[4184]

you a clue that you're moving in the

[4186]

right direction

[4187]

your job is to

[4190]

declare what you want your job is to use

[4194]

manifesting to train your mind body and

[4197]

spirit and remove the obstacles that you

[4200]

would normally put in place your job is

[4203]

to take the actions that are inspired by

[4205]

manifesting and start moving toward what

[4208]

you want

[4209]

you also though need to call out those

[4212]

mile markers when you see it holy [ __ ] I

[4215]

just got introduced to somebody in the

[4217]

movie business and it's my dream and I'm

[4220]

manifesting that I have my script turned

[4224]

into a movie this is a sign that I'm on

[4227]

the right path and what you want to do

[4230]

is call those things out not because the

[4233]

universe or magic or this is somehow

[4236]

just randomly happening

[4239]

this is you being rewarded for

[4243]

manifesting properly for believing in

[4246]

yourself and for taking the inspired

[4248]

action that is going to make your dreams

[4251]

a reality and these little moments these

[4254]

signs these small wins that are

[4256]

happening every day as you make

[4257]

manifesting a consistent skill that you

[4261]

practice in the morning that you put to

[4263]

use so that you are aligned with what

[4266]

you want so that your mind body and

[4268]

spirit is working with you instead of

[4270]

against you when you start to also call

[4273]

out the small wins there I am

[4275]

manifesting there this thing happened

[4276]

this is happening too there are my angel

[4278]

numbers holy cow this just happened

[4281]

you're now building momentum you're now

[4284]

energetically rewarding your body for

[4287]

aligning with what you want and it just

[4289]

makes all of this that much stronger it

[4292]

makes your beliefs stronger it makes

[4295]

your courage bigger it makes your

[4296]

confidence stronger that's how all of

[4299]

this builds one on the other and if

[4302]

you're not willing to call out the small

[4304]

wins you're missing a huge amount of

[4307]

Mojo and Rocket Fuel and Magic that you

[4312]

can add into the mix because all of

[4314]

these small wins are literally reasons

[4317]

for you to be more confident reasons for

[4320]

you to keep going reasons for you to

[4322]

really know in your mind body and spirit

[4324]

that yeah this is going to happen

[4327]

because you're making it happen and what

[4330]

we're going to talk a lot about today

[4332]

is we're going to talk about this

[4334]

principle

[4336]

that I believe

[4338]

and the principle is this

[4341]

profound personal and professional

[4344]

change starts with you

[4346]

that's right profound personal and

[4349]

professional change starts with you

[4352]

and change starts with you because the

[4357]

most effective change starts from the

[4360]

inside out okay and so as you think

[4364]

about a behavior change or a thinking

[4368]

pattern change that you want to make or

[4371]

some sort of goal or dream I want you to

[4374]

take everything that I'm about to teach

[4376]

you

[4377]

and have that example in mind okay so

[4382]

that everything that I'm talking about

[4384]

isn't just stuff I'm doing in my life

[4386]

isn't just stuff that you read about uh

[4389]

when you look at the research in terms

[4391]

of habits and manifesting but you

[4394]

actually walk away with takeaway that is

[4398]

specific to what you want to achieve

[4400]

okay so good so you've dreamed with the

[4403]

lid off you've written it into the

[4405]

comments now let's start by letting me

[4407]

give you a hack I'm going to share with

[4410]

you something that I'm working on right

[4412]

now okay so one of the things that I

[4414]

want to do is I want to drink less in my

[4417]

life I have a habit and I've had a habit

[4420]

for decades of around six o'clock when I

[4422]

start cooking dinner I typically will

[4425]

pour myself a drink it's something that

[4427]

I enjoy it's something that I do as a

[4430]

ritual to uh kind of end the work day

[4433]

and ease into being uh you know in the

[4437]

more personal part part of my life and

[4439]

as I've gotten older as I've started to

[4441]

understand more about my health I

[4442]

thought you know I actually don't want

[4444]

to be doing that every night and so I

[4446]

would make this sort of promise to

[4448]

myself that I wouldn't have a drink and

[4450]

then 6 30 would roll around and next

[4452]

thing you know I am mindlessly walking

[4454]

over to the cabinet where the Gin is and

[4456]

I'm making a gin and tonic and it's not

[4458]

that I feel that I have a problem it's

[4461]

that I was having a problem getting a

[4464]

new habit to stick and so here is one

[4468]

hack that is based in science that is

[4472]

going to help you make any new habit

[4476]

stick and yes this is relating to

[4480]

manifesting

[4481]

but what is this little hack well this

[4485]

little hack is something that Taps into

[4487]

what's called your procedural memory

[4490]

okay and let me tell you how you use the

[4493]

hack so with that thing that behavior

[4496]

change I saw some of you uh writing down

[4499]

that you want to make more money you

[4501]

want to stop procrastinating you want

[4502]

health goals

[4504]

here is a hack that you can use using

[4506]

your procedural memory to make a new

[4508]

habit stick

[4510]

all you have to do

[4512]

is you need to close your eyes

[4515]

and picture yourself

[4518]

step by step by step practicing the new

[4524]

Behavior or thinking pattern so in my

[4527]

case this is what it looks like I close

[4529]

my eyes and I think okay I'm in the

[4532]

kitchen I turn to my left and I can see

[4536]

the red clock and I visualize it saying

[4539]

6 30.

[4541]

I feel the pull of the cabinet where the

[4544]

Gin is but I picture myself walking over

[4548]

to where the glasses are instead and

[4550]

then I take a glass and then I picture

[4553]

myself walking over to the fridge and

[4555]

then I open up the fridge and then I

[4558]

reach for the kombucha and then I pull

[4560]

it out and I grab a lime and then I grab

[4564]

a soda water I shut the fridge and then

[4566]

I pour a kombucha I pour a little soda

[4569]

water I take the peeler I peel the lime

[4572]

so I get that neat little lime strip and

[4574]

I P see it twisting and I see the little

[4577]

uh kind of you know like when you twist

[4580]

Citrus it's sort of like sprays that

[4582]

little stuff and then I drop it into the

[4584]

glass and I see myself picking it up and

[4588]

I see myself sipping my mocktail

[4591]

I don't even want the Gin this tastes

[4593]

delicious

[4594]

you want to know something fascinating

[4598]

research

[4600]

that has been peer-reviewed

[4603]

shows that simply

[4606]

going through

[4608]

that procedure of the new habit or

[4611]

thinking pattern step by step by step

[4615]

by going step by step by step

[4619]

you are locking in a new sequence in

[4623]

your procedural memory

[4626]

and based on Research

[4629]

that one time that you do it makes it

[4633]

way more likely that when 630 rolls

[4636]

around you are not going to drink the

[4639]

Gin you are going to make the mocktail

[4642]

now why does this work

[4644]

well the reason why this works is

[4647]

because you're using science to rehearse

[4651]

the new Behavior or the new situation or

[4654]

the new thinking pattern and to encode

[4657]

it in your brain before you actually do

[4660]

it and when you use your procedural

[4663]

memory to rehearse something that you

[4666]

want to have become a new habit or a new

[4669]

way of acting in your life you're

[4672]

basically putting it in your long-term

[4674]

memory now what is your procedural

[4675]

memory well your procedural memory is

[4678]

the part of your brain that has stored

[4680]

all the motor skills like writing like

[4683]

picking up a glass and drinking like

[4685]

walking it is all stored in your

[4688]

procedural memory the reason why you and

[4690]

I can walk without thinking about it or

[4693]

talk or skip or brush our teeth is

[4695]

because we have rehearsed that sequence

[4698]

that procedure that series of events

[4701]

over and over and over again and now

[4704]

it's locked into my brain into my

[4707]

procedural memory now here's what's

[4710]

really cool everybody

[4711]

your brain doesn't know the difference

[4714]

between an event that you have closed

[4718]

your eyes and imagined

[4720]

and an event that you've actually done

[4723]

and what's happening in your brain when

[4726]

I visualize myself making that mocktail

[4728]

step by step by step by step is I am

[4732]

making connections between the gaps at

[4736]

the end of the neurons in my body

[4739]

the synapses and every time I either

[4743]

imagine that sequence of events or I

[4746]

practice it we're making that connection

[4748]

between neurons stronger and stronger

[4751]

and stronger

[4753]

and so here's what's really cool

[4757]

what I just told you

[4760]

is manifesting

[4762]

seriously

[4764]

manifesting

[4767]

done correctly

[4770]

is when you use your procedural memory

[4775]

as a tool

[4777]

to train your brain your nervous system

[4780]

your spirit to help you feel motivated

[4785]

and to help you do the work that

[4788]

actually changes your life

[4790]

how cool is that

[4792]

I want to be very clear about something

[4794]

you know manifesting gets a bad rap

[4796]

because of the law of attraction

[4799]

but manifesting is not woo-woo at all

[4802]

it's not a Cheesy topic manifesting is

[4805]

not just think about something that you

[4807]

want and suddenly it'll magically appear

[4810]

no no no no no

[4813]

manifesting is when you use your

[4816]

procedural memory and you visualize the

[4820]

step by step by step actions

[4824]

that you need to take in order to make

[4828]

your big goal or the thing that you want

[4830]

or the new habit to become a reality you

[4834]

see manifesting isn't the end everybody

[4837]

manifesting is the bridge it's the

[4840]

series of actions that you're gonna take

[4843]

in order to have this new habit and when

[4847]

you rehearse something and when you

[4849]

encode it in your procedural memory what

[4851]

actually happens is because it's now

[4854]

something that your brain recognizes the

[4857]

walking to the other cabinet not where

[4859]

the Gin is the opening up The Fringe and

[4862]

grabbing the kombucha instead of

[4863]

grabbing the Gin in the cabinet when you

[4866]

rehearse this over and over you are

[4869]

lowering the limbic friction the

[4873]

friction in your mind the resistance

[4875]

that you feel you are lowering that

[4878]

resistance and that is how manifesting

[4881]

helps you achieve your goals as I said

[4883]

so in 19

[4885]

1990 I was a senior in college at

[4888]

Dartmouth and my parents came to visit

[4891]

from Western Michigan and we went to

[4893]

this place called Simon Pierce which is

[4895]

a famous glass blowing Mill and as we

[4898]

walked into the restaurant I had an

[4900]

experience

[4901]

that you may be able to relate to and

[4903]

that is I walked in and I immediately

[4905]

saw this painting hanging on the wall

[4907]

and it was about the size of a door only

[4910]

horizontal and it was a Vermont

[4912]

landscape and I was drawn into it

[4914]

immediately like I was no longer in that

[4917]

restaurant I was standing in that field

[4919]

I could feel that breeze I'd never ever

[4922]

had an experience like that with a

[4923]

painting have you ever had an experience

[4925]

like that with art no I mean not like

[4927]

that not like that I mean my yeah my

[4929]

sense was that this is very atypical for

[4931]

you very

[4933]

so I

[4936]

kind of lost it the the the the

[4937]

restaurant was quiet and then

[4940]

I leaned back and suddenly kind of back

[4943]

in the moment I'm like I'm gonna own

[4944]

this painting someday it just that was

[4946]

what was right there and I looked at the

[4948]

price and said like three thousand

[4950]

dollars I'm like not today and I went

[4952]

back and I sat down and that was it but

[4954]

the painting never left my mind you see

[4956]

there's something called The zygon Arc

[4958]

effect I always say it wrong but it's

[4960]

like there's a checklist in your brain

[4962]

that when you have a moment where you're

[4965]

like this is important your brain puts

[4969]

it on a checklist yeah it's like a notch

[4971]

yes a notch happens and now your brain

[4974]

as part of the filter in the brain is

[4976]

always going to be kind of scanning the

[4977]

subconscious to let anything into your

[4979]

mind related to that incident it can be

[4983]

positive by the way like with the

[4985]

painting or this is how trauma happens

[4986]

too like you have this high intensity

[4988]

emotional experience that notches

[4990]

something in your brain and now your

[4992]

brain kicks in to remember

[4994]

so uh bottom line is uh I always thought

[4999]

about that painting

[5000]

years go by

[5002]

whenever somebody would say Vermont I'd

[5004]

think of the painting

[5005]

I don't know why I can't explain it

[5007]

never wanted a painting before was not

[5009]

an art student it's going to last like

[5011]

you're out collecting Arts no no no and

[5015]

so I you know fast forward the story 10

[5017]

years and my uh Chris and I are engaged

[5021]

and we're going to go up to Vermont to

[5023]

see the leaves and immediately I'm like

[5025]

we got to go to Simon Pierce I got to

[5027]

show you the painting so we pull up to

[5029]

the mill and we walk in and right in

[5031]

front there is Boom a painting by the

[5033]

same artist Gail Shepard and I'm like oh

[5034]

my God it's here and we race all around

[5036]

the place

[5038]

and it's gone

[5040]

and the funny thing was and this is the

[5042]

way your brain works Chris was more

[5044]

disappointed than I was

[5045]

I literally turned to him and said it's

[5047]

okay dude like it'd be weird if we're

[5049]

still here after 10 years I'm gonna

[5051]

track this thing down I actually said to

[5052]

him you know what's gonna happen Chris

[5054]

I'm gonna be able to buy this like 40

[5056]

years from now it's going to be hanging

[5058]

in the corporate Lobby of some building

[5060]

and I'm gonna have to track down the

[5062]

owner and pay like quadruple the money

[5064]

they pay but I'm gonna own this thing

[5065]

I'm Mission yes so a couple years pass

[5068]

and

[5070]

um it's my birthday I think I was

[5071]

turning 30 and Chris says uh Chris gets

[5074]

a couple people too

[5076]

give money and he said I could buy

[5078]

anything I wanted with it so I had what

[5080]

500 bucks now I'm pregnant at the time

[5082]

with our first kid

[5083]

I should have bought a crib or stools

[5085]

but for whatever reason the zeigon arc

[5087]

effect takes over and I'm like the

[5088]

painting so I call the mill and I get

[5092]

this guy on the phone I'm like uh you

[5094]

know I want to buy a kale Shepherd piece

[5096]

and I said could you send me Polaroids

[5099]

and he's like sure and I tell him the

[5100]

budget and he goes I'll send you

[5102]

Polaroids of some of her smaller things

[5104]

and she's like blowing up in the

[5106]

meantime right yeah she's a very very

[5109]

successful Vermont landscape artist and

[5112]

so I

[5115]

I I say to him you know by the way

[5117]

there's this one painting

[5119]

and I describe the painting I'd seen

[5121]

over 10 years ago and he said well that

[5123]

was way before my time but I bet Gail

[5125]

know

[5126]

and I'm like Gail you know Gail he's

[5129]

like of course I know Gail she like

[5130]

lives in in down the road

[5133]

here's her number

[5134]

so for two days I paced around the

[5136]

apartment with 500 bucks in my pocket

[5138]

driving Chris crazy because I felt like

[5140]

what am I going to say to her and I must

[5141]

be a weirdo I've been stalking this lady

[5143]

I've been thinking about her for 10

[5144]

years I can't afford a painting you know

[5147]

what who am I to buy a painting like

[5149]

what the hell

[5150]

so finally Chris is like which color I'm

[5153]

gonna call her you're driving me crazy

[5154]

so I call her and I start talking a mile

[5157]

a minute and she was amazing

[5160]

and then

[5161]

um I said by the way there was this one

[5163]

painting and I go and I explain this

[5166]

painting there's a stand of poplar trees

[5168]

down the center and a big mountainscape

[5170]

behind it and this beautiful blue

[5172]

Vermont sky and geese flying in

[5174]

formation overhead and

[5176]

I could hear her thinking on the other

[5178]

end of the line

[5179]

and she said you know Mel I've done so

[5182]

many large-scale

[5183]

uh paintings over the years I'd hate to

[5187]

mistake the one you're talking about but

[5190]

I'll tell you what

[5191]

what if my husband and I meet you and

[5193]

Chris at the Mill at Simon Pierce and

[5196]

we'll walk all around and have lunch and

[5197]

I'll tell you the stories behind every

[5199]

painting and if you don't see what you

[5201]

like there I'll take you back to my

[5202]

studio which is a couple miles down the

[5204]

river and you can look at everything I'm

[5206]

working on and if you don't see anything

[5207]

you like there then you can go through

[5209]

all my slides and see if you can find

[5210]

that painting that you saw 10 years ago

[5212]

and I said deal

[5214]

so a month passes we go up to the mill I

[5217]

walk in we meet each other she's amazing

[5219]

she's like twice our age just incredibly

[5222]

cool lady she's walking around as we're

[5224]

walking around looking at these

[5225]

paintings Rich I've got I'm like eight

[5227]

months pregnant I'm realizing

[5229]

these are 10 times the amount of money

[5232]

that I have

[5234]

I can't afford this

[5237]

like I don't I don't have this kind of

[5239]

money

[5240]

and I'm getting like more and more into

[5244]

that imposter syndrome what am I doing

[5246]

mode oh my God I'm so embarrassed I'm

[5248]

meeting somebody I idolize I don't

[5250]

deserve to be here right wasting her

[5252]

time because she thinks she's going to

[5253]

get a Payday out of this correct we sit

[5255]

down

[5256]

and she goes now that you're sitting

[5258]

down I have something to tell you

[5265]

[5268]

she said there's only been two times in

[5271]

my career as an artist

[5273]

that I've done two studies of the same

[5276]

peace

[5277]

and your painting is one of them

[5280]

it's one of a pair

[5283]

she knew all along she knew all along

[5285]

she was playing games with you about not

[5288]

knowing which painting yeah and she said

[5290]

the sister piece to the one that you saw

[5292]

all those years ago is sitting in my

[5295]

studio right now where it's been for the

[5297]

past 11 years

[5300]

I start sobbing everybody's like totally

[5303]

emotional her husband's like you should

[5304]

have seen her when you when she was on

[5306]

the phone with you it was like she saw a

[5308]

ghost so we get in the car

[5310]

and we drive to the mill

[5313]

and when we walk in there in the center

[5315]

of this massive kind of Barn Studio

[5317]

space is an easel with a painting taped

[5321]

up with painters tape on it and it was

[5324]

the sister to my painting there were

[5326]

slight differences not as much movement

[5328]

in the grass but it was

[5332]

one of the most extraordinary

[5334]

experiences of my life it was as if time

[5337]

suspended and I was

[5340]

standing before that painting in 1990

[5344]

saying it would be mine

[5346]

and there I was 11 years later

[5349]

standing in front of it

[5351]

and then I realized oh my God I can't

[5353]

afford this

[5355]

and Chris walks over and he's like

[5356]

what's wrong and I'm like just promise

[5358]

me someday like promise me that I don't

[5360]

need a jewelry I don't need a car like

[5362]

just promise me you will buy me this

[5364]

thing

[5365]

and he kind of leans over and goes hey

[5367]

Gail how much for the big one and she

[5370]

said um

[5371]

Mel can have it for 500 bucks because

[5373]

clearly when I was making it 11 years

[5376]

ago I was making it for her

[5381]

and so it hangs in my kitchen

[5385]

it's on the back of the book

[5387]

um this is the galley though right yeah

[5389]

wait is it in the is it I think so yeah

[5391]

yeah and

[5393]

um it's a reminder every day that your

[5396]

mind is designed to help you get what

[5398]

you want

[5399]

I never stop believing

[5402]

that I could make it happen

[5404]

and when you tell your mind what's

[5406]

important to you

[5408]

there is extraordinary science

[5411]

that proves that your mind has a live

[5415]

and ever-changing filter a live Network

[5418]

that changes how it views the world What

[5422]

it lets in what it blocks out and if you

[5425]

program your mind correctly

[5427]

and if you're clear about what you want

[5429]

to create your mind will help you get

[5432]

what you want

[5433]

[Music]

[5437]

hey it's Mel thank you so much for

[5439]

checking this video out and if you like

[5441]

this one I have a feeling you're gonna

[5442]

like this one too I'll see you there

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