Settle Your Past Karma: 20b: BK Shivani (English Subtitles) - YouTube

My mother lived with us all her life. We stayed in the same house.

If someone hurt my mother

I could not forgive them for months.

I wouldn't talk to them and not even receive the phone calls.

But in what we discussed last time, it was about a murder.

By holding on to things in the mind

One person wronged another

Let's take a simple example. Suppose your brother said something hurtful to your mother.

Right now we will not discuss about that other incident of murder (from last episode)

Your brother said something to your mother. Which means one soul said something to the other.

The other soul got hurt.

You are the third soul in the scene. You are detached. The Karmic account so far is only between them.

It was a Karmic account between the other two souls, not yours.

So initially it was theirs.

They had some give-and-take of the past

So he came and said something such that she felt bad.

You are connected to both the souls.

With your brother and mother.

When one soul created Karmic account with the other

The anger that you created

And you created it for a very long time - for days or months.

So what did you create?

What did you create during that one month?

You also created a Karmic account with that soul.

I will believe it is natural because I saw my mother sad.

Yes what was going on, was natural.

But this is what we said - that we need to keep the law with us.

Using that law we need to see how to do the right Karma.

You mentioned that you want to correct all the wrong Karma is done in the past.

We need to go back to the past. We all have enough to do in the present itself.

There is so much to do at each step in the present.

As we keep doing it, the past keeps getting settled.

Because it is the past which is coming back to us in the present.

Every moment of the present - it is the past which is coming back.

So whatever from the past is coming, we need to face them correctly.

Let us take this example again.

Brother is doing a wrong Karma towards the mother.

One is the understanding that it is a Karmic account between those two souls.

Second - what is my role at this moment?

Being a son, my role is to heal my mother.

You will want to heal her because she is in pain and crying.

And she is sad and upset so you need to heal her.

In order to heal how should your state of mind be?

You need to have compassion - " it is ok, he said something."

"It is his Sanskar."

We need to quickly stop thinking about what he said.

Important is to heal her state of mind.

The focus should shift from the wrong which has happened.

Need not keep thinking about it, and create anger or hurt.

Instead, look at how to heal the person who is hurt.

Only then we are playing the right role. Instead of saying it is natural to get anger or hurt buy somebody's action.

Because that would create a new Karmic account.

How should our Karma be?

How to heal somebody who is in pain?

Focus the energy towards construction.

Focus the energy towards healing.

Otherwise if we sit with the mother and say, "He is like this, said like that."

"He did this, he said that to you. I don't even want to talk to him. I will not let him in this house again."

This is happening among relatives in many families.

So what is happening to our Karmic account? And then we say we want happiness.

We also say, " I lost my happiness because he came home."

"Because of him, the happiness of our entire household is gone."

"He is about to come, he will ruin all the peace in this house."

Even if he comes and creates an issue, he just shakes everybody's minds and leaves.

Our role is to rebuild the peace in the house again.

Suppose he came and the entire house became a mess.

He is gone. Now my role is to reconstruct the house to what it was.

Instead of questioning and pondering over why he even came.

I can even tell him that I don't want to talk to him so he shouldn't come home again.

Yes that is fine. With every Karmic account

If we are getting a divorce, if we are quitting a job

If we are unable to work with somebody

Our Sanskars I'm not going to match with other people's sanskars.

In many cases where there is extreme conflict

Withdrawing is fine, but withdraw from here.

That is very important.

I cannot work with you

Because our values and principles are completely different

Our sanskars are completely different

And somehow I am unable to mould myself to be able to work with you.

So it is better not to work together

We bring it here.

This often happens in business where people decide to be friends.

We can be good friends, eat together, meet often, but we cannot work together with each other.

Very clear and it works well

If we cannot work together we get separated

But anger, hatred, resentment and revenge

Divorce. If we cannot live together

We tried our extreme best

We tried out all options

Yet if it is not possible, this is also a Karmic account.

Then we choose to be separate

But what about here?

If we want to settle our Karmic account

Then the resentment we have held on to

Even that needs to be finished.

Now what is happening is, the more we are separating

The more we are holding onto the hatred and anger within us.

In fact we remember them more than anybody else.

The people with whom we could not work or live together

We need to take care that even if we separate, we need to keep this clean

Karmic account means the Slate should be cleaned here.

And here - if things work well, then nothing like it.

In extreme cases if it did not work - even then it is ok.

But not here. This if we start taking care

That the soul is getting cleaned within

It means that our past Karmic accounts are getting settled

This can be applied even in the biggest of situations.

Now we cannot say in any situation that anger is natural.

Naturally because he hurt my mother.

I used this example as we were discussing about the women who has not been talking to her brother since 14 years

Because her brother had murdered her parents.

He murdered his parents. The law of country must have also acted on the case.

The law of Karma will also work.

This is an extreme case. So the law of the country and the law of Karma will both act.

But what did I contribute by creating anger and hatred?

This I have to ask - what am I getting out of doing that?

First of all, I am living in pain. Forget the others against whom I created anger and hatred.

What about me if I'm just holding onto anger and resentment?

What good is it creating?

We need to ask ourselves - what is coming out of holding on to resentment and anger?

What is coming out of it? More hatred.

If you don't want to talk to them, do not talk all your life.

The matter was so big that now I cannot talk to that person ever. It is ok.

But holding on to the emotions here and discussing it with people and radiating hatred

What are we trying to do?

Buy my holding onto hatred, will they be affected in any way?

Only I will be affected. And what happens is

In case of that lady, she has not spoken to her brother since 14 years.

But what about her soul power because of holding onto resentment and anger?

It has been reducing.

There are other people in her family at home.

She has good Karmic account with those people.

She has her husband, two children and mother in law at home.

Even they might be wondering till how long she will hold onto the pain.

Suppose they don't know that she is still upset from within.

But she is restless, so it will influence her relationships and the environment at home, is it not?

How will it affect? How will they come to know?

Her constant vibrations of sadness, anger and hatred will be radiating at home.

Not only vibrations radiating. When the soul power is low

She will start reacting even at small instances, with these people at home.

She will create irritation, hurt or pain, the moment somebody says something.

Because the soul power has become very low.

Because she has held on to it for 14 years.

So it started with one Karmic account not being good.

But because she did not let go of the pain, the other Karmic accounts which were good

These karmic accounts were good in the past.

But what happened to these in the present?

That is why the bigger picture is important.

What was the benefit of what we had termed as 'Natural'?

We have to always see the consequence of whatever we are doing.

Her adjustment and tolerance power here at home has reduced.

Restlessness in the mind, at home, health is affected, constant vibrations of hatred towards her brother.

She might have wept alone so many times, unable to share her sorrow with her husband about what his brother did.

Even if she is able to share with them about everything.

But finally everyone will not empathize with you for that situation all the time and make your life easy.

There will be a clash of their sanskars with your sanskars.

That is bound to happen, is it not?

For everything they will not correlate that she is upset because of that situation, so let us not tell her anything.

It cannot go on like that.

So at home there will be fights over small issues.

So it is very important to remember the whole day, that in one Karmic account

We should not deplete our energy to such an extent

That in the other Karmic accounts which were going well

Its effect starts to show there.

Normally also if we look at households, if there is a conflict between the mother in law and daughter in law

Then the state of mind of the daughter in law will affect her behavior with her kids.

It'll be a direct influence.

By itself, the Karmic account or relationship between the mother and kid is beautiful.

But why coming into conflict with the mother in law repeatedly

And by holding on to that for a long time, by being sad and by not forgiving

The effect will show on her children.

One Karmic account will influence many other Karmic accounts.

That is why it is important to let go.

I have seen that sometimes if the mother and son have an argument, the mother will stop talking to the daughter in law.

That is done deliberately. This is different.

That is done deliberately. But in this case it is a mother and child.

And there it is the mother and daughter in law.

The mother is not deliberately behaving wrongly with the child.

Suppose there is a lady who has a conflict with her mother in law.

But she is upset because of that conflict.

She is irritated and even angry.

Now if she is not able to talk to her kids properly, it is not deliberate.

It is only because her state of mind is not right.

Tolerance power is not high. Why does a mother raise her hand on her child today?

Why does a mother raise her voice at her kids, even at a small issue today?

It is because she is upset about some other relationship or some other issue.

One thing we need to remember is that in our life, a majority of our Karmic accounts are very beautiful.

They are very good. Most of our relationships are beautiful.

It could be only one or two where there are conflicts.

But because we make those one or two conflicted relationships complicated

Its effect influences our state of mind.

And that will start influencing the other relationships which were so far very good.

So shall we change the definition of natural, indoors one or two conflicted relationships?

Because it is not natural, it is becoming un-natural for us.

So now check all the Karmic accounts today

Tick the ones that are beautiful. In the one or two which are not so good

I cannot change the other person, let me change myself.

So that this Karmic account remains light.

So that I can put all my energy into other beautiful relationships and make them even better.

What a huge difference it makes by taking care of that one Karmic account.

Absolutely.

We need to experiment this and check.

Myself, my family, staff, and the environment itself becomes light.

Most importantly, that one heavy Karmic account also starts becoming light.

So settling it. This is how we started the episode

How to settle the past Karmic account - this is the way.