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TOXIC MANAGER | 9 Toxic Boss Signs to Look Out For - YouTube
Channel: Jennifer Brick
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Of all of the signs of a toxic manager. I find thi
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is the one that has had the highest impact on m
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clients and the people that I've worked with
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Hello, welcome back to my channel where I help you
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slay your career and cultivate the successful life
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you deserve. For the best career advice in
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cyberspace, make sure you tap that subscription
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button and the notification bell I released two
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new videos each week. Let's talk about your toxic
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AF boss, shall we? If you haven't already seen it,
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about a year ago, I made a signs that your
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workplace is toxic video. And one of the most
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consistent themes that I found coming up in the
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comments was about toxic bosses. And really, in my
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opinion, toxic bosses are the ultimate driver for
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a toxic work environment. The rest of the company
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can be absolutely awesome and incredible. But if
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you have a toxic manager, it's not going to go
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down well. So in today's video, I'm sharing with
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you 9 signs that your boss is toxic. And they're
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not only doing this to make you potentially look
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bad, they're also doing this to make them look
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good and probably very necessary. If you are ready
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to figure out if your boss meets that criteria,
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tap the like button. And let's jump into it. The
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first sign that your boss is toxic is that they
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skew towards micromanagement. And not just
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occasionally. They're micromanaging you all the
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time about all of the things. I have an entire
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video on micromanagement, and sometimes
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micromanagement is just because they don't really
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know what they're doing. But toxic managers
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actually use micromanagement as one of the ways to
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let's just say it drive you crazy and they're
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micromanagement isn't just annoying, it is
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actually something that does get in the way of you
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being able to do your job. And to do your job
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effectively. Your micromanaging boss also probably
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likes to send those micromanaging emails at
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11:30am on a Saturday morning, and maybe even
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wants to hop on a call to just walk you through
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things and how they should be done. This toxic
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boss behavior also coincides with the next sign of
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a toxic manager. And that is being overly
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critical, your manager should absolutely be giving
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you constructive feedback on a regular basis. One
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part of their job, after all is to help you become
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better at what you do and more successful in your
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career. And they can't do that without delivering
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feedback. And sometimes that feedback is going to
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be critical. Where the toxic manager ranges though
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is all of their feedback is critical. And it's
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overwhelmingly and sometimes even necessarily
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critical. Let me ask you a question. When was the
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last time that your boss actually acknowledged
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that you did something well, and when you do do
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something that is really exceptional? And you are
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getting praise? and accolades? Does your boss
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still find something that you did wrong with it?
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Or do you find the critical feedback that they
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give you really benign in actionable or really
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just something that is a matter of their opinion?
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Or is it something that best practices and
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industry experts would actually disagree with,
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these are signs that your boss is being critical
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just to be critical. And there's a reason for
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this, your critical boss wants to undermine your
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confidence in your work on the successes that you
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are actually accomplishing at your job. And they
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have all of their toxic reason, which I am not
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going to invest time in this video talking about.
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But that constant criticism is a big red flag that
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you have a toxic boss on your hands. And this
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actually leads me directly into my next sign of a
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toxic manager. And that is when they are
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undermining you, the toxic manager, especially
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through their unfair criticism will actually begin
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to undermine you, they might do this privately in
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your one on ones and through that unfair
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criticism, but they actually may even take
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additional steps and start undermining you in
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front of other people, whether it's in front of
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your team, in team meetings, or even in front of
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customers and partners who you work with your
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toxic manager is doing this as a power play. And
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what ends up happening is that your toxic manager
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now has an excuse to micromanage you even more,
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because they have just corroded the confidence
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that other people actually have in you. And in my
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opinion, this is one of the most dangerous
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Behaviors of a toxic manager because it can
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seriously impede your ability to do your job and
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for you to really thrive at what you do. The
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reason for that is when they undermine you enough,
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you are not going to be given the opportunities
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that you need in order to grow in your career. And
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one of the ways that they undermine you is
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actually going to lead directly into the next sign
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of a toxic manager. And of all of the signs of a
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toxic manager I find this is the one that has had
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the highest impact on my clients. And the people
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that I've worked with the fourth sign of a toxic
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manager is they refuse to acknowledge your
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accomplishments. Now, I touched on this a little
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bit when we talked about criticism, but a toxic
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boss or toxic manager is not going to be able to
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acknowledge anything that you have done well, this
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not only is going to be something that can have a
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very high impact on your confidence. But this is
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also going to have a direct impact in your
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compensation and your opportunity to advance in
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your work. Because if they refuse to acknowledge
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the great things that you're doing, that is going
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to show up on things like your performance review,
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and if you're applying for a job internally This
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is even something that could actually impact you.
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Plus, let's just be really honest here. Most
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people, at least occasionally need a little bit of
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external validation to let them know that they're
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doing good things. After all, if we don't know the
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things that we're doing at work that are going
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really, really well that are making an actual mark
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for our company, and for our team, it's going to
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inhibit our ability to actually focus there and do
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more of those things to amplify our awesomeness to
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make a bigger impact overall. So really, this
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toxic manager behavior is hurting everyone,
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including your toxic boss themselves. And as if
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they wouldn't be bad enough, if they just did
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those things. They're not going to leave it there.
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No, no, your toxic manager is going to just don't
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waste the knife while they're at it. And this
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brings me to my next sign of a toxic manager. And
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that is they are going to create obstacles for
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you, they are going to get in the way of the work
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that you do. And yes, they might be using tools
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like micromanagement and unfair criticism in order
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to create obstacles for you. But they might be
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doing other more nuanced things like refusing to
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support the work that you do, or just refusing you
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to give you actual opportunities to flex and grow
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your skills at work. And actually drawing from my
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personal experience here, and the most toxic
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manager that I worked with had this phenomenal
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ability of taking a task that should have taken 30
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minutes and turning it into three weeks of work
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and disorganization. And just chaos, your toxic
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manager is going to create a lot of hoops for you
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to jump through a lot of checkpoints and a lot of
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really strange nine rules in order for you to
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actually accomplish your goals. Now, the next sign
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of a toxic manager is one that can be a little bit
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more nuanced, but it's one that is very, very
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dangerous. And that is that toxic bosses tend to
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speak poorly about other people. Let me guarantee
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just one thing for you. If you hear your manager
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talking poorly about other people, especially if
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they're talking poorly about your coworkers,
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they're talking poorly about you to other people
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as well. And if you've been hanging out with me
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here on my channel for a while, you know my
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opinions on gossip and exactly how useless and
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toxic it is. The toxic people just can't help but
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drag other people down to their level. And because
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they at their core, it feels so much ugliness and
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awfulness about themselves. They need to create a
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reality for themselves where everyone is as awful
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and incompetent and negative and miserable as they
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are. And that's why they're gossiping about your
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coworkers about other people in the company. And
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yes, probably about you, when this is a toxic
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manager behavior, this can actually become a very
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easy trap for you to fall down along with them. Do
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not fall into that trap. No matter what you do.
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The most important thing that you can do in this
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circumstance is making sure that you are giving
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them an opportunity to rise up to your level
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instead of stooping down to there's like the
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wonderful and glorious Michelle Obama sad when
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they go low, we go high. And that brings me into
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one of the more extreme but also not entirely
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infrequent signs of a toxic manager. Your toxic
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manager may exhibit some unethical behavior and
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unethical decision making you know that boss who's
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telling you that it's okay for you to just act now
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and ask for forgiveness later. I know that what
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they're asking you to do, or what they're
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encouraging you to do is bending but really
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breaking all of the rules. If not the law, this
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toxic manager behavior is going to bring you to
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lows that you never even knew existed. If your
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toxic boss is exhibiting this behavior, you need
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to find a way out as quickly as possible. But I
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want to be clear here as well as doesn't always
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show up as things that are obviously wrong. This
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also shows up as things that are completely
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enough. But things that are unfortunately still
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commonplace in today's work environment things
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like discrimination that are still happening day
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to day, these types of behaviors are not just
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creating a toxic environment, they are creating a
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very hostile work environment for you and for
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others on your team at your company. Now, of
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course, when you're a toxic boss does any of those
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things they are going to display sign number eight
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of a toxic manager, and then there's going to be
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that they completely lack accountability. Of
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course, this also happens to be a treat of our
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Narcissus and psychopaths. I do have videos on
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both of those types of people as well. If you want
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to check them out after this one, when your toxic
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boss makes a mistake, when they completely mess
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things up. They're going to hold zero
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accountability and guess what they're going to
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find a way to make it your fault. Maybe if you're
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lucky, they're going to blame it all on one of
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your co workers. Well you kind of I least add by
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and maybe are just happy that it didn't fall on to
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you. And I think that this is the worst part about
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the toxic manager because their lack of
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accountability is going to completely stunt their
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professional development. They're going to stay
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the toxic boss because they are not going to take
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anything Accountability or responsibility for the
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bad work environment that they're creating and the
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negative results that they're achieving as a
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direct result of their toxic boss behavior, and
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now leads me directly to sign nine, that your boss
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is toxic. And that is that they're just in general
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and asshole. And yeah, that is basically the only
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way that I can sum this up when you're working
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with a jerk. And they're creating a bad
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environment. And they are not just a bad manager,
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but they are a toxic boss who's doing one or more
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of the above listed things. This is a toxic
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manager. And the sad reality is because especially
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when it's paired with things like their lack of
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accountability, it's not going to get fixed, which
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leads me now into the bonus tip that I have for
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you. And that is that you need to take action,
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whether it's finding a way to transfer into a team
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that doesn't have a toxic boss, or if you're in a
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toxic company, actually finding an exit strategy
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into a new company, you need to take action,
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things are not going to improve and staying in a
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toxic workplace or working for a toxic manager has
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real implications and is a real risk to your
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mental health and your well being. I do have
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videos on job search strategies and everything
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like that, which you absolutely do need to check
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out. But if you haven't already, make sure and
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click subscribe because my next few videos are
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going to help you figure out how to survive while
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you're still in that environment and how to
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actually recover when you escape from it. But
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there is one thing right now that you need to do
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if you are working with a toxic manager and this
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is the most important thing that you can do in a
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toxic work environment in general and that is to
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start cultivating positivity in your life. When
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you have a toxic boss when you're in a toxic work
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environment you're spending a lot of time every
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single work day in a negative space. And this is
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not good for you my friends. So finding ways to
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intentionally cultivate positivity into your life
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on a daily basis. And to you know have that after
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work refresh are really really important. You can
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get started right here with this video that I want
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you to go and watch after this one if this video
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helps you figure out if your boss is actually
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toxic AF give it a like let me know if it helped
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down in the comments below. And as always, thank
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you so much for watching. I will see you in the
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next video. Bye for now.
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