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Why you always feel so mentally drained. - YouTube
Channel: Matt D'Avella
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on average you make roughly 35 000
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decisions per day like deciding what
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t-shirt to wear what breakfast to eat
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and what youtube video to watch thanks
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by the way in many ways this constant
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deluge of decisions is a byproduct of
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our ever-advancing modern society look
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around and you'll see more choices than
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ever before it wasn't long ago that if
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you wanted a coffee your only option was
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coffee now walk into almost any cafe and
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you'll be asked do you want almond milk
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oat milk goat milk venti grande ariana
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grande grocery stores are lined with
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choices in any given supermarket you
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might have six different types of peanut
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butter nine varieties of apples and 12
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brands of yogurt ride sharing apps help
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you find the ride you want whether it's
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budget cars or helicopters and fast food
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restaurants encourage you to have it
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your way you can instantly compare items
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on amazon rank the top 20 taco shops on
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google and swipe through hundreds of
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eligible dates right from the toilet
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while on the surface this kind of choice
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feels like a good thing there's a heavy
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burden to our constant need to make
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decisions and the cumulative costs of
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making tens of thousands of them every
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single day might be completely changing
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your life
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in a very bad way
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all right so i know that this might all
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sound a little bit dramatic after all
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most of the decisions that we make on a
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daily basis aren't exactly life or death
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we're trying to figure out what shoes to
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wear or whether or not that captcha
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image is a seal or a traffic sign but
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when we constantly sweat the small stuff
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it has implications on our happiness the
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quality of our relationships and if we
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aren't careful it can even impact the
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outcome of really important decisions
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like choosing where to invest our money
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or whether or not to take that job in a
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new city
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in psychology they call it decision
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fatigue basically when you make a lot of
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decisions during your day the quality of
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those decisions decreases over time in
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the morning you might be able to fly
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through decisions one after another but
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later that night when you get closer to
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35 000 decisions you begin to make
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mistakes that you might later regret
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psychologist dr jean twenge knows a
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thing or two about this topic her
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research into decision fatigue started
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while she was planning her wedding with
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her husband specifically they were
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picking out the items for their wedding
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registry did they want ceramic or
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porcelain plates rustic or elegant the
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two sliced toaster or the four what
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brand what color what size inspired and
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absolutely exhausted by this process she
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decided to conduct an experiment dr
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twenge and her colleagues purchased a
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bunch of items from a local department
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store
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then they asked one group of students to
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make a series of shopping related
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decisions would they prefer a computer
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mouse or a controller did they want a
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red t-shirt or a black one how about a
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candle or a coffee mug and then a second
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control group was asked to contemplate
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the same products but this time without
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having to make any choices afterward
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both groups took a classic self-control
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test holding their hand under ice water
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for as long as they could and the result
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the decision makers scored significantly
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lower when it came to self-control
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this finding along with many other
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follow-up studies to back it have come
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to the conclusion that self-control is
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kind of like a battery every decision
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that we make even the little ones drains
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the batteries charge a little bit which
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means that we have less energy available
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to make other decisions later on and
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those decisions that we make might not
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always be good ones studies have found
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that nurses make more expensive and
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ineffective decisions the longer they go
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without a break and judges have been
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shown to be less likely to grant parole
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later in the day even with similar cases
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corporations know all about decision
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fatigue and they use it to encourage us
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to make impulsive decisions that's why
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when you go to the supermarket you see
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treats like candy bars near the checkout
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they know that you've already made a
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bunch of decisions while you were doing
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your grocery shopping and you won't have
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the self-control to withstand that shiny
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rapper and when ikea forces you to walk
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through the showroom for three hours
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until you get to the warehouse section
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and by that point you can't tell the
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difference between the jade ramon or the
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george not so you just throw both of
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them in your cart and hope for the best
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and when we're really worn out from
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making too many decisions sometimes we
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refuse to make any at all we neglect
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ignore or postpone important decisions
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because it all feels too difficult we
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don't know what to say back to that
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person in a text message so we ghost
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them for a month we don't know what task
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to tackle next on our to-do list so we
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do none of them we stand still in the
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ikea warehouse drooling from our mouth
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looking at all of the options which only
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makes us want those meatballs even more
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and if that all sounds a lot like
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procrastination that's because it is
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decision avoidance can keep us stuck in
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a state of analysis paralysis and stop
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us from taking action on the important
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things the good news is that there are
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some simple strategies you can use to
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reduce decision fatigue and make better
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choices where it counts but first a
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okay so let's talk about some simple
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strategies that you can use to reduce
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decision fatigue and make better choices
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every day the first and most
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straightforward way is to simply reduce
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the amount of decisions that you make
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okay let's be honest there is so much
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crap that we take on every day that we
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simply don't need to so take stock of
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your commitments and determine what's
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actually essential and what you could
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let go of cut down on your to-do list
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from 20 items to 10. take a rain check
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on your next social engagement or if
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you're really feeling the pressure from
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the amount of decisions that you need to
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make employ what i call the universal no
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so whenever i'm really busy if i'm
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working towards a project deadline let's
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say i'm making a course for my company
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slow growth i will say no to all
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interviews all networking calls and all
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side projects it doesn't matter if the
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rock shows up at my door and he's like
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hey matt i've gotta roll for you in my
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next movie i will tell him i will look
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the rock right in his eyes and say
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no
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that's a lie i would definitely say yeah
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i mean what do you i mean what are you
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gonna do in that situation you're not
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gonna say no to the rock um yeah so
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obviously there's exceptions there's
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always exceptions but for 99.9
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of all decisions that you need to make i
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would typically say no in the end it
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makes the act of turning people down so
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much easier because you can say sorry
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right now i'm turning down all
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commitments unless you're the rock as i
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work towards the launch of my next
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project this really tends to take the
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sting out of the word no and people
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don't get as butt hurt when you turn
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them down next you can automate as many
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decisions as possible there's a reason
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that some of the world's most successful
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people wear the same thing every day
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from steve jobs to barack obama to
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these brilliant people know that
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automating daily decisions like what to
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wear each day can free up some of that
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precious cognitive energy for the things
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that actually matter this is where
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putting simple routines in place can
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really be helpful whether it's having a
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meal plan on rotation or working out at
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the same time every day not only will
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this help to conserve that brain power
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but it can also help you make healthier
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decisions every day without trying
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thanks to habits
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and finally make your most important
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decisions first thing during the day
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when your brain hasn't had the chance to
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get fatigued by all the other minor
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decisions yet whether you start your
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work at 7am or 3pm if you spend your
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first hour of your day browsing through
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instagram or combing through your emails
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you're wasting your best energy on
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repetitive tasks that you can handle
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later on when you're feeling that
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afternoon slump instead choose the two
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to three most important things that you
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need to get done today the things that
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require the most amount of mental energy
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and do those things first that's why i
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typically leave my mornings open to
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write or to plan my big picture ideas
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for my business because that's when i
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know the most important decisions are
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being made the last bit of advice that i
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want to give you is that you should cut
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yourself some slack it's okay that
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you've taken on too much in a world
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that's designed to wear down your
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ability to make good decisions rather
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than punishing yourself or attempting to
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bury your urges listen with curiosity to
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what thoughts and feelings are behind
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those impulses by paying attention to
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the triggers that lead to not so great
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decisions you can learn to identify the
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things that drain your energy and
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compromise your judgment like when for a
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minute i said that i would turn down the
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rocks movie role because honestly the
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rock dwayne mr johnson if you're
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watching this video and you want me to
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make a cameo in your next movie uh i
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mean i know obviously like it's probably
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hard to get a self-development youtuber
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to be in a big netflix movie
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um but i could probably move some things
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around it's really not a big deal
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you've got my number because i keep
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calling you and you just have blocked me
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thanks for watching dwayne and everybody
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else i'll see you next time
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